How soon?? Too soon?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@futurejhart:  DH and I didn’t talk about the wedding until like a week after the engagement, there was lots to do in the meantime, telling family and letting it sink in!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@futurejhart:  We enjoyed it for a few days and then we got to asking the bigger questions since we only had a little less than 10 months to plan and had to get your bigger things like venue, photog, and DJ booked.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We started right in with planning, as I wanted a wedding in 11 months, and venues book up quick.  If we would have been okay waiting longer, probably would have waited longer. 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

We set a date about a month later. My bad, it was more about two months later.

 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@futurejhart:  I let engagement sink in first 🙂 We were engaged on a Friday, told everyone, and I think by that next week we had started talking about wanting a summer wedding and decided on a date. Once we told everyone they started making date demands right away, so we had already known which dates to avoid. Then it came down to us calling around and seeing what was available.

I would wait a few days and enjoy your engagement and FIANCE (woo hoo for getting to say that) and then ask questions. You can afford a few days.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

@futurejhart:  Give it at least a week. FI knew I had been mentally/pintrest planning our wedding for a year at least. But for some reason, he didnt realize engagement = plan a wedding lol He became a bit overwhelmed & it took me calling him a groomzilla for him to chill. Now we’re taking it slow. Unless he brings up the plans, keep a list of things you want, start virtually researching venues, but dont push him to do tours or anything just yet. FI thought we would wait a month before starting to plan… silly boy!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@futurejhart:  He proposed and I said yes but considered it more of a promise engagement (I was still in highschool so it was a strange pill to swallow!) 

When he graduated tech. he proposed again and we got legally married a year later without any planning. We planned our symbolic ceremony right after our engagement and hosted the wedding 8 months after our JCP ceremony 🙂 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@futurejhart:  Immediately after the ring is on your finger? Yes.

Why don’t you try this: Write down all the questions that you need imput from him on, go out to dinner discuss and then you can handle the next x amount of months of planning without needing to overwhelm him again 🙂 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think you are the one who knows your SO the best. My FI & I had been together for 4 years prior to the engagement and had already talked about when & where the wedding would be (I had actually gone to look at a possible venue the week before we got engaged). We discussed possible dates the day of the proposal because we got bombarded with questions about it. He actually wanted to set a date a year before I was expecting. I do not think a FI should get freaked out about questions about a wedding if he has proposed, that would be a little silly. You shouldn’t feel like you aren’t allowed to ask questions, no matter when you get a ring on your finger. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@futurejhart:  We are a little crazy but actually the night that my FI proposed he later said I guess we better start planning.  Within a week of being engaged I had the venue booked and now less than two weeks I’ve already bought my dress.  But, we knew we wanted to get married in May and I work crazy hours February-April so it had to be done now.

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