Post # 1
I have been in two wedding previously, my sister and my good friend. I was talking with my friend about make up and told her that I picked someone, but when I told her the price she said oh I can do my own. However, when she got married she wanted her cousin to do our make up. I suggested if she could use my foundation since my skin is sensitive, she said I sure she has some that you can use. She was very particular about everything in her wedding wanting everything perfect. I mention to my sister the dresses I saw and told her the price of $99 she said that is too expensive for a dress that I will never wear again, and I had to quickly remind her that her dress she picked for us was $130, with an attitude of well if you don’t want to wear it you don’t have to be in the wedding.
I just think it is hilarious when women plan their weddings the world revolves around them, but when it comes to someone elses wedding they are more aware and the whole it’s your wedding idea goes out the window.
Fellow bees, share your stories.
Post # 3
Yes I agree!!!
One of my BMs is my FI’s best friend (who is a girl). Well, he has 3 male BFFs and one female BFF, and I felt really bad that the girl couldn’t be in the wedding on his side, so I asked her to be a BM.
We got engaged a long time ago, and we were pretty surprised when she and her FI got engaged a couple months ago and set their wedding date in August. (We are getting married in November.) I picked out BM dresses that are ~$100, but she said she may not be able to buy one. I totally understand that! – and I offered to help out my 6 BMs with their dresses if they can’t afford them. However, this girl is having a $65,000 wedding, she and her FI make >$200k/year, she just bought a $40,000 VW Tiguan, and her BMs are wearing expensive dresses… So I was pretty surprised that of all people to complain, she was the one. (Two of my other BMs are just scraping by financially and they haven’t complained at all.)
Anyways… a little awk! I totally know what you’re talking about!
Post # 4
I don’t have a story to share, but I always think to myself…don’t accept being a bridesmaid if you are going to complain about the cost. Why does it seem to catch people off guard when they are asked to pay for something (e.g., a dress?) Most ladies know the average cost of a bridesmaid dress…so why b!tch about it when it comes time to buy one? Most brides are very aware of costs and keep things within a reasonable range for their girls (i.e., make-up/hair is optional, gifting the shoes, finding good deals on dresses…). It sounds so frustrating. Thank goodness I haven’t had that experience with my lovely BM’s!
Post # 5
@MsVoyageur: That’s crazy that you even had to help her pay for her dress with her wedding costing so much.
Post # 6
All married women I know fall into this category!! One of my friends, who did a similar thing as us (small wedding, bigger anniversary party) asked me for all kinds of help which I happily offered when she got married (including dress shopping, ring shopping, researching alternative metals) which also happened to be while my husband was literally dying…he passed 1.5 days before their wedding. I was happy to help, never complained (still not complaining), and we even took my car all over to do things. Never minded.
Now she’s married and can’t even TALK about my wedding, doesn’t ask about it, doesn’t bring it up, and barely acknowledges it when I mention it even casually, such as ‘I can meet you at 7, I have to drop off my wedding dress to my Mom’s on my way’. I don’t think she’s being mean or anything, I think she just honestly forgot HOW stressful it can be and doesn’t get it anymore.
Post # 7
I agree with you %100!!!! I was in a wedding last year and the bride wanted everyones hair, makeup and nails to look the exact same. I spent so much money on this wedding and went out of my way to drive almost an hour to her place to help her with the wedding. Now that my wedding is coming up she says she isnt able to make my engagement party for some reason and is angry that I’m not including her in my wedding party even though we were not that close to begin with. I hate going out of my way for people who wont do the same in return. I definetly learned a lesson being in that wedding!