Post # 1
FI and I have been planning to do a very theme heavy wedding…its been evolving but continues to be fairly fluid.
The issue we are both having is how to stay on the good side of theme wedding…we all know there is a dark side from which there is no return and we don’t really want people to think of it as a “theme wedding”…more like a wedding with a theme…
So Bees, any advice on how to achieve the subtle but distinct difference?
Post # 3
mhm, my suggestion would be some flowers, coloured theme? With BM’s dresses, and so forth.
I think that is what is most common to “theme”, but I think it also has to do with the kinds of accessories and decorations you want to use for your wedding. I wonder if that “leave one accessory at home before you go out” -thing applies for wedding themes as well.. ? Most weddings I’ve seen in here are really pretty!
Post # 4
I say you have you use your best judgement and maybe put everything in one place from time to time and make sure you didnt go too crazy…
Post # 5
I think it depends on what kind of theme? Some things will be more noticeable and can cross that line more quickly than others.
Post # 6
Trust your own judgement. I think you’ll know when you’ve gone to the dark side lol. It is about surrounding yourself with the things you love. I am sure it will be beautiful.
Post # 7
Coco Chanel always said that when you dress, before you go out you should look in the mirror and remove the first accessory that catches your eye. It was her way of never over doing her fashions…
So, my suggestion would be to plan your wedding theme, pull everything together, and then remove the one thing that stands out the most.
Post # 8
See, the issue is the theme is sort of retro tiki lounge…which I feel can go sour very quickly.
I am the kitchy queen, but, its a wedding, there is some amount of “timelessness” I think every couple strives for in their planning.
I just don’t want to look at pictures 10 years from now and ask my FI “Oh, honey, why didn’t you stop me from making the 10 ft. tall Easter Island head sculpture?!” 🙂
Post # 9
We are keeping the “wedding” theme free.
We are having a themed reception however.
Big difference imo.
Post # 10
@Rubies: I think that can be a really cute theme but it can go south pretty quickly. I would kind of take what everyone else said and do everything you want, and then start taking away. Pick a couple elements and keep them constant through everything, like having tiki torches everywhere, but limiting tiki statues. That sort of thing.
Post # 11
If the general decor has a theme, I think that can be great!
If every detail is themed, it gets bad fast.
I always think of Oriental Trading Company–how they have matching everything: tiki lamps, grass skirts, hawaiian shirts, flip flops, hats, bamboo cups, bamboo bowls, every item you pick up has a hawaiian print. That makes me want to throw up.
But if I went to the wedding at the beach that had tiki torches and tropical flowers and and hawaiian barbacue and 50’s music and cupcakes with coconut cream frosting–I’d think that was awesome and fun.
If I were you I’d put it all together on an inspiration board and make sure that at least 50% of my “items” were not directly related to the “theme”—it’s the go-with-but-don’t-match rule.
Post # 12
@Loribeth: Exactly, I guessed it could be applied for a themed wedding aswell 🙂