Post # 1
I was wondering, how loose or tight are your rings?
You see, I went to order my wedding band a month or so ago (and it’s still on my mind) and the girl at the shop sized my finger and said I should get my ring smaller than my engagement ring currently is and get the engagement ring resized.
However, I rather like the size of my engagement ring now. Yes, it can get pretty loose in winter but it is perfect in summer, not moving unless I move it. And it’s not so loose that it would come off- it just turns around a bit because my finger is a little thicker at the second knuckle. It can get a little annoying in winter but it is mostly ok and I don’t mind that it turns a bit.
I ended up getting the wedding band a little smaller on her recommendation but she actually recommended I get it even tighter so it wouldn’t move at all. She thought that was pretty important. The thing is (and I know this is weird), I get a little claustrophic about jewelry and rings in particular if they are too tight and don’t come off fairly easily. I start to feel like I am trapped in them and worry I can’t take them off…I know it’s silly….but what do you think? Would you get yours tighter so it doesn’t move at all? Or is yours a little loose? I admit I am a little worried about having two rings turning around instead of one.
Post # 3
@Leene: I wouldn’t go smaller if I were you. Honestly you need a ring with a little movement/play. Fingers swell, not only in summer but when sitting in certain positions for extended periods, when sleeping, etc. If the jeweler sizes it too small think what it could do to your finger… Not to mention how uncomfortable it would be.
Post # 4
@Leene: I had this same question. A jeweler sized my finger so that the ring fit snugly. It doesn’t turn unless I move it and makes a slight indent in my finger. That bothered me, but I’ve been told that that’s the way the rings supposed to fit. To quote one lady “goes on easily enough, but hard for someone else to take off.”
It felt weird. I thought it was too tight, but like you, I think I have jewelry claustrophobia. I was going to get it resized, but I decided to wait and see. I have to admit, it feels a lot more comfortable now. I think it’s partly because your finger will conform to the ring after a time; you’ll get that famous “ring indent” that characters on prime time TV always use to tell if a man’s been cheating, lol. And now that I’ve gotten used to it, I’ve noticed how often I fiddle with another ring that’s a half size up because it’s constantly sliding around.
Unless your fingers swell a lot in the summer, I’d size down. Mine go up maybe a quarter size when it’s hot, but it’s not enough to make it really hard to remove my rings. If you’re unsure, you can always buy a fake ring in the smaller size and wear it for a while to see how you feel.
Post # 5
The ring should feel comfortable and shouldnt make an indent as soon as you put it on. LIke pp stated your fingers swell up sometimes so there should be some room for that
Post # 6
I had the same problem as you. My finger is now naked AGAIN because it is getting sized for the 3rd time. DH originally got me a 7 because that is the size of my rings for my righ hand. Well on my left it was way too big and I was scared it would come off when I washed my hands. I went to the jewler and I told them it needed to be a 6-1/2. They convinced me that I should get a 6. That was fine until I put my wedding band on with it. I wore it that way for a while, but it was so tight that I got a terrible reaction to it. I guess air wasn’t getting under it, so it caused a rash, and I couldn’t wear anything for a few weeks. It is now at the jewlers again, making it a 6-1/2.
Post # 7
You know what is really unattractive? Ring muffin tops. Your ring should be big enough that you don’t get the muffin top when it’s hot out.
Some people think that ring sizes are like dress sizes–if you can cram it on, you can brag about your small size while really your fingers (or entire body) looks terrible. Just going a little bigger (and no one will ever know!) will make things look 10 times better.
Try the band and the ring on together and see how they feel–if it’s comfortable–tell that sales lady to shove it.
Post # 8
I have the exact opposit problem! My jeweler sized me as a 5.25 despite my asking for a 5… now the ring spins and it drives me crazy! So I have to send it BACK to Simon G to be re-sized and give it up for 2 weeks. Go with what makes you comfortable.
Post # 9
OP, I’m like you – I can’t stand tight rings! They drive me insane. And my fingers swell a lot when it’s hot, which would make it worse.
My e-ring is probably half a size bigger than it “should” be, but I’m not going to get it sized down. It does twist around my finger a little bit, but it’s not so loose that it’s going to fall off. It’s worth it to not be physically uncomfortable.
@nerdface: Ring muffin top!! LOL.
Post # 10
My ering was a bit too big before getting it sized. In the jewelry store last September it seemed okay. But during the winter months it spun on my finger and I was terrified I was going to lose it especially after washing my hands. The band became terribly scratched in a few short months. The jeweler said it was because of all that spinning. I only had it sized down .5 size because I didn’t want it too tight. Now my rings can spin if I turn them but they don’t really spin on their own. My fingers swell in the warm weather and I was worried that the rings would get painfully stuck. So, I’d say size it down some, but maybe not as much as the jeweler recommends.
Post # 11
@nerdface: I agree.. avoid ring muffin top at all costs! Whenever I see ring muffin top it makes my finger hurt!
Post # 12
Before FI bought my ring, I had my finger measured and I was told it was a 5 (not sure what time of year this was). My size 5 ring felt comfortable enough in the winter. It would spin, but it was challenging to get it over my knuckle to take it off. As the weather has been warming up, I’ve started to get the “ring claustrophobia” feeling and my ring became actually painful to remove. I haven’t even worn it in a week as I’ve been trying to decide where to take it for resizing (it was purchased from Blue Nile and I don’t want to wait 2 weeks to get it back.) So I plan to ask a jeweler if I should go up to a 5.5 or a 6. I also need to decide what size wedding band to buy.
Post # 13
I got my e-ring and wedding band in the same size. I found that the wedding band can be nice and loose and not spin at all, while my e-ring cant stay on top for the life of me. Im’ thinking about leaving my band as is and sizing down the e-ring a quarter or half size.
Post # 14
I was told it should take 1 second to get on and 3 to get off. Go with what’s comfortable though. I wouldn’t always trust a jewler just because they’re in the store. I was sized at a 9, then once I got it was WAY too big. I could shake it off my hand!
Post # 15
I wouldn’t go smaller. This might sound mean, but I cringe when I look at people wearing their rings too tight.. it can make the skinniest of fingers look stumpy and it makes me uncomfortable to look at it (not how it looks, just imagining how uncomfortable tight rings are)
Post # 16
Go with what YOU want. My jeweler sized me up and I told her I’ve always been an 8 and now my ring is too big. It falls down to my knuckle and I can pull if off way too easily. The spinning is sooo annoying. I went back and they told me to wait until summer because I’d swell. Yes my ring is fine when it’s warm but if I’m in air conditioning all day it still spins. I’m just mad I have to take it back and be without it to get it resized 🙁