Post # 1
For our wedding we decided to rent a 6 BR beach house for 4 days/3 nights to accommodate the bridal party. Our rehearsal is on a Thursday and the ceremony is on Saturday. For some people, this is only a half hour drive, so that couple may not stay. For most others, it’s a 1.5-2 hour drive and most are making a weekend of it.
When it comes time to get ready for the wedding, myself and two bridesmaids will go to the salon for hair and makeup. Their SOs will be back at the house, I guess hanging out with FI and his groomsmen. What about the groomsmen SOs? Should I offer them to come to the salon if they want to? And what about getting dressed? Is everyone else going to hangout in the house while myself and the two ladies get ready and Fi and the groomsmen get ready? Should I offer to include them?
I’m just not sure, what are your thoughts?
Post # 3
You can offer if you want, but I don’t think you have to. If you aren’t very close with the SO’s it might be awkward and they might prefer to just get ready by themselves. If I were a GM’s SO and not close with you at all, I wouldn’t be offended if you didn’t invite me to the salon or to get ready with you.
Post # 4
Some of them if they are friends may go do other things, go to the beach etc… But if they are staying in the same house I think it would be polite to offer for them to come if they wanted, or at least make sure you are open to them hanging out and chatting with you girls while you get ready etc…
Post # 5
They are absolutely wlecome to get ready with us, or they can hang down by the beach (it might not be warm in May though). I just don’t want them to feel like they have to join. I wasn’t sure if it was odd too, to get ready with people that aren’t in the party.
Or I didn’t know if it would be awkward for them to get ready with us, I just want everyone to feel welcome and not feel like there is anything they have to participate in.
I think the 2 guys joining the groomsmen is easier, guys just seem more go-with-the-flow
Post # 6
@kmarie719: When my FI was in a wedding, I hung out with the guys then went off to get ready. I went and ran errands then came back dressed. During pictures, I grabbed a drink. The other SOs also made themselves scant. It would have been awkward to infringe on the bride’s time with her friends.
Post # 7
@Pollywog: Good point. Maybe the other girls that aren’t in the wedding will get ready together? There will be 3 girls and two males there that aren’t in the wedding.
It’s a very large house, so there is plenty of space for everyone to have their own areas or get ready together.
Post # 8
My FI (BF at the time) was a groomsman in a wedding where we had to travel; I hung out with him and the groom (a mutal friend) earlier in the day, got ready, and then just hung out and waited for the ceremony to start while they were off doing goomsmen things before the wedding. I wouldn’t have dreamed of infringing on the bride’s time that morning.
I think your groomsmens’ SOs will understand that A) their dates have stuff they are obligated to be doing on this particular day and B) you’re a bride on her wedding day with a lot going on. I’m sure they’ll be totally fine for what will likely only end up being a few hours that they’re on their own (alone or with each other).
Post # 9
If I were the SO of a groomsman, I would be really grateful to be included in staying at the house, but aside from that, I wouldn’t expect any special accommodations. They’ll probably want to just relax and take the day at their own pace.