Post # 1
I am getting ready to start addressing envelopes for my wedding, and will be inviting a married gay couple. They took each other’s last names and hyphenated them, which makes it difficult to put both of their full names on the front of the invitation. How do I appropriately address the envelope to them?
Would it be:
Mr. John Doe-Smith and Mr. Steven Doe-Smith?
Misters John and Steven Doe-Smith?
Or something different?
Post # 3
I vote the second if they sre married and share a last name, like any other married couple.
Post # 4
Ditto, the second option looks best to me!
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Post # 6
Second option looks best. Although, misters sounds a bit odd.. Maybe just skip it and just have names?
Post # 7
I would probably ask them how they preferred to be addressed, but if you don’t want to do that, just do the second one.
Post # 8
Well a google seach found me Miss Manners saying it should be:
Misters John and Steven Doe-Smith (with the names alphabeticaly)
Side note: I also found that for women its supposed to be Madams. And if they have different names, just to go alphabetically.
Post # 9
Misters John and Steven Doe-Smith sounds good to me
Post # 10
For my gay married friends, I put
Rachel and Clare Worrall-Cobbett.
Post # 11
Why not “Mr. and Mr. Doe-Smith” or maybe “Mr. and Mr. John and Steven Doe-Smith” (lol, not really. I mean, it makes logical sense, it just looks dumb to me at least!)
Post # 12
For my married gay guests who kept their original names, my invitations designer recommended:
Mr. John Adams and Mr. Tom Smith
Basically, in alphabetical order by last name, but on the same line and with “and” to signify the marriage.
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Post # 14
Thank you for your input everyone! I think I’m going to go with option two – Misters John and Steven Doe-Smith. It just wouldn’t feel formal enough if I didn’t put the ‘Mr.’ in front of it.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@thatredheadedbride: Have one of them changed their last name? If so then do it by the second one. If not then do it the same way that you would for a married couple that have two different last names. 🙂
Post # 16
I have two married gay friends, one I wrote Mr. John Doe and Mr. Steven Smith (as they kept their own last name) and the other I wrote Mrs. and Mrs. John and Steven Doe (after asking, one took the other’s last name)