How To Address Envelope to Married Gay Couple

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5561 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I vote the second if they sre married and share a last name, like any other married couple. 

Post # 4
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ditto, the second option looks best to me!

Post # 6
1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Second option looks best. Although, misters sounds a bit odd.. Maybe just skip it and just have names?

Post # 7
12481 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would probably ask them how they preferred to be addressed, but if you don’t want to do that, just do the second one.

Post # 8
224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Well a google seach found me Miss Manners saying it should be: 

Misters John and Steven Doe-Smith (with the names alphabeticaly) 

Side note: I also found that for women its supposed to be Madams. And if they have different names, just to go alphabetically. 

Post # 9
2290 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

Misters John and Steven Doe-Smith sounds good to me

Post # 10
5068 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Ask them. 

For my gay married friends, I put

Rachel and Clare Worrall-Cobbett. 



Post # 11
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Why not “Mr. and Mr. Doe-Smith” or maybe “Mr. and Mr. John and Steven Doe-Smith” (lol, not really. I mean, it makes logical sense, it just looks dumb to me at least!)

Post # 12
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

For my married gay guests who kept their original names, my invitations designer recommended:

Mr. John Adams and Mr. Tom Smith

Basically, in alphabetical order by last name, but on the same line and with “and” to signify the marriage. 

Post # 15
1672 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@thatredheadedbride:  Have one of them changed their last name? If so then do it by the second one. If not then do it the same way that you would for a married couple that have two different last names. 🙂

Post # 16
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I have two married gay friends, one I wrote Mr. John Doe and Mr. Steven Smith (as they kept their own last name) and the other I wrote Mrs. and Mrs. John and Steven Doe (after asking, one took the other’s last name)

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