How to address FI's family?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

My FI calls his aunt “Aunt Laurie” and I just call her Laurie. I would address anything to her as such. It may not “sound right” but I think it’s appropriate. So in your case I would just write it to Linda. 

Post # 4
2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If it’s for the bridal shower, aka just from you and not from both of you, I’d just go by first name.  Wedding thank yous, though, I’d do Auntie (name) since they’re from both of you.  I don’t think you should refer to his aunts as Mrs. (name), as you are now an adult and on ‘their level,’ not a child talking to her friend’s mom. But maybe that’s just my viewpoint.  If you’re REALLY unsure about just using first name, can you talk to FI’s mom about what she thinks the aunt would prefer?

The one exception to that for me was DHs aunt who I have only EVER heard referred to as Tia (Spanish for aunt) – not even Tia Mary, just Tia, so that’s what I call her.  I think in her case I went with the middle ground and addressed her as Tia Mary in her thank you.  But if she were just Aunt Mary to him, I would have called her Mary in the thank you, regardless of how much sense that makes lol.

I’m sure they won’t be offended either way, to be totally honest.

Post # 5
3787 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yeah.. I wouldn’t call her “Auntie” either. That sounds really odd to me. I would probably call them by their first name. If you want to be really proper, call them “Mrs. Doe” and let them tell you. That might be the best option since you’ve only met them a few times. 


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