How to address save the dates?

posted 2 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
Hostess
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I am putting the name of the person I am inviting, and than plus guest, but only if they are not married or living together. 

Post # 3
Member
1272 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

If I was inviting my friend S and she had been dating J for a long time but they’re not necessarily engaged or living together, I mailed the save the date to S, and it was addressed to S and J. If I wasn’t sure about a friend’s relationship status, I just addressed it to the friend (with no “guest” or guest name written in), and I’ll get more specific when the actual invitations need to be mailed.

The reason I addressed it specifically to S and J (rather than S and Guest) is because if they break up, it’ll be pretty clear to both of them that J is no longer invited since the save the date was mailed to S, and I have no personal connections to J. If J was also my personal friend than the situation might be different. I’m not giving plus ones to everyone, only guests who are currently in relationships….so I wouldn’t want S to bring a random guy she met at a party just to fill a generic guest spot….the spot is specifically reserved for her long-term boyfriend J.

Post # 5
Member
2214 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I addressed mine as John Smith and Jane Doe if it was an unmarried couple (regardless of their living situation). We knew the names of all of the SO’s so we didn’t put “and guest” on any of them.

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