(Closed) How to address…

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
12904 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Are you doing inner envelopes?  If so, the outer envelope should be addressed to the guest: “Ms. Amanda Davis, 123 Main Street, Some City, State, 12345” and the inner envelope can be more informal, addressed to “Mandy and Guest” or “Amanda and Guest.” 

Post # 4
2494 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I addressed the outer envelopes to “dave jackson” and on the inside I put that TWO seats were reserved in your honour. I only did this cause I hate “and guest”. It bothers me to no end, for some reason.

Post # 5
3264 posts
Sugar bee

It is most polite to find out the name of your friends dates and invite them by name.


Post # 6
1696 posts
Bumble bee

@Candace From BC:  The right way to do it, is to talk to your single guests and ask them if there is someone they would like to come with, to whom you should send an invitation. You may find that some of them actually want to come with each other. You may find that some of them say no — and feel pressured if they are instructed to bring “And Guest” because they may not be welcome if they don’t bring their own dance partner. And you may find that some of you give you a name — and address, you’ll need that too.

In the last case, you then send a separate invitation to the person they requested. If you are completely unacquainted with their requested guest, you still prepare the separate invitation in the unknown guest’s name, and give it to their friend to pass along.

This technique prevents guests’ bringing your ex-boyfriend, the scum-bag who raped your maid of honour when she was fourteen, their mouthy dragon-lady grand-aunty, or any other “and Guest” who doesn’t fit the profile you were imagining when you generously (but mistakenly) wrote those words on the invitation.

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