Post # 1
This is something I had not thought about until a friend brought it up. When I got engaged, I called my parents then told my very few closest friends. There is a group of friends who I used to hang out with a lot but haven’t seen in awhile and don’t know how to tell since I’m not on Facebook. They are people who I don’t normally make plans with or text, but only see if I see them through a mutual friend or at a party. I plan on inviting them to the wedding, but to be honest, they have always been flaky (but used to be fun to hang out with.) And I haven’t seen them in almsot a year.
It’s almost been a month since I got engaged, is it weird I haven’t said anything? I planned on sending an email asking for addresses to send the announcement and planned on letting them know then, is that rude?
Also, has anyone had people not be happy for them? There is someone I emailed to tell (another non-close friend) and she didn’t even reply. And another friend who I thought was a close friend, simply texted congrats back and since nothing. It just makes me feel really awkward on how to proceed when people are lukewarm to your news.
Post # 3
Nothing rude about sending a quick email, hey Sally, long time no talk, I hope all is well, Joe and I got engaged and are going to be getting married in September; could I have your address please so we can send you an invite?
Anyone who finds that rude probably shouldn’t be on the guest list.
As for people not being happy for you, firstly I don’t think someone who doesn’t respond, or only responds “congrats”, is not happy for you; some people just do not get really emotional or even very active on text messages or emails. And some people would likely respond more excitedly if you were to take the time to actually call them. Texting sure is easy, but it’s not personal, and that might have a bit to do with how people replied.
But you also need to set your expectations accordingly. You will hear many times that “no one is as excited about your wedding as you are,” and that is 100% absolutely true. Some people will wish you well, but from a distance, and go on with their lives; don’t expect flowers and puppydogs from everyone you contact.
Post # 4
@fishbone: right, sorry i dont mean i expect much, like fireworks ro anything, and yes, if i didn’t talk to someone all that much in the first place then i wouldn’t expect much of a response. but what if it’s a friend whom you used to hang out with every weekend?