Post # 1
Ok, here’s my dilemma, my fiance and I want to have a very small wedding, like only 15 people made up of only immediate family and a couple of life-long friends. The reason for this very small wedding is due to cost, but mainly the fact that my fiance is very uncomfortable about being in the “spotlight” of a large wedding. So, we’re planning something very small, probably at a small chapel in Vegas with a short 30-minute cake and champainge reception immediately after the ceremony. Afterwards, we’re thinking the guests can go on and entertain themselves in Vegas and perhaps we, my new husband and I, meet up with them for lunch the next day before we fly off on our honeymoon.
My question is, I know a lot of people who want to be invited to the wedding and participate by giving gifts, but I cannot invite all of them. How do I send out information or an announcement about the wedding, listing our honeymoon registry (because we have all major household items, so we’re registering for assistance with our honeymoon) without sending out an invitation to the wedding?
I don’t want to appear tacky or greedy, but I need to know if there is a proper way to accomplish this. Would a wedding website be the answer? If so, does anyone have any good websites to help put a wedding website together?
Post # 3
I would def. advise the website. here’s a review of all the popular websites: http://www.weddingwebsites.com/
Proper thing: is put it in your website or word of mouth..so my handy dandy bridal book says! yay!
You can send our We’re married announcments so all your other friends and than put in check our our website for more information so if they want to send a gift, they are go this route. You could do a postcard with a picture of you and your hubby kissing at the alter or in your dress with a little saying “We tied the knot” and…include the other informaiton.
Word of mouth is another fananastic thing to spread registry. Could you have a bbq in your back yard for a “reception” for all the other guests? We’re getting married in FL and my family and the entire little town I grew up is in IL. My family is only ones able to come down but my small town is upset that they aren’t able to attend because well, small towns are families in themselves. So I’m hosting a reception in my small town about a month after the wedding so they can see my and my hubby and do the whole reception thing. Just an idea.
Post # 4
We’ve got the same problem with our four guest elopement. I’d like to spread the word by word of mouth, but our guest list doesn’t talk to each other that much or even have each others’ contact info. And I don’t know, maybe it’s just me, but creating a website for a fewer than twenty person wedding feels a bit weird.
Post # 5
Quick question, do you think people will still want to contribute if you are not having a reception to which they are not invited? If not, I would reconsider advertising a registry in any form. I would be hard pressed to send a solicited gift if I was not invited to something. Now, if I loved ya and knew you were getting married and you didn’t solicit funds/gifts, you would likely get something from me.
Post # 6
just send out anouncements to your friends
if they ask about registry then tell them; that way it doesnt look like youre begging for gifts
Post # 7
I think registries always need to be spread word of mouth or on a website. I would create a website with pictures of the event. Write a letter on it saying you regretted not being able to having everyone there, and that they were in your hearts, and you appreciate their good thoughts and blessings. I think you can put a registry on there. Then AFTER the wedding, you can even mail them that night. I would mail out a wedding announcement. “Mr and Mrs Weregoingplacez joyfully announce their marriage.” Include the web address, but be sure to have pictures up before they arrive.
You mentioned it is a honeymoon registry and that you want to leave right after the wedding. I don’t think it is proper to send the announcement before the wedding, since it can be confused with an invitation. So you might have to forgo that type of registry. Also, I hate to say it, but you should be prepared to not receive gifts from people who weren’t invited.
Post # 9
This is just my opinion. Some may disagree with this but it does seem a little greedy to create a site just to log on and give a gift. If it were me I would either
1.) Send a “We tied the knot” card & leave it at that. If they want to send you honeymoon money or a gift they will find a way without being directed.
2.) do as floridabeachbride suggested and actually throw a backyard BBQ to invite the people over that didn’t get to share your special day.
I think these ways would be more classy & not make them feel like they’re getting a “hey; we’re married! Sorry We couldn’t invite you but we still want your gift.”
I know some people would understand your small wedding for budget purpose; but some people may snark @ getting the website login invitation.