- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
FI and I are having an adult-only wedding and our families both support that. There are very few people on our guest list impacted by this, but one of the few who will be is FI’s best man. BM Afro told FI a few months ago that his wife wouldn’t come with him so she could stay home and watch their child. He hadn’t sent back his RSVP yet (he was just in a bad car accident) so I was emailing with him about some details and I wanted to confirm that the plan was for him to still attend without his wife. He wrote back, “I don’t know if my wife can make it because we could not find sitting for our child. Forgive my memory, what events can our child attend? Obviously the bachelor/bachelorette parties are a no.”
We’ve already talked to our hotel and venue if they know of babysitters in the area who would be able to watch another child in a similar situation and they didn’t have any suggestions. My question is basically what is the best way to word “your child is not invited to any of the events” without sounding rude? I was thinking something like “We’re planning an adults-only weekend, so while we’d love to see your child, we don’t feel this is the setting.” But I really don’t know.