Post # 1
so we’ve sent out our STDs, and we’ve already got some negative RSVP’s. Since we’re still 7 months out we wanted to send out another round of STDs to the guests we have on the B list. However, these guests will be aware of the fact that they are recieving them AFTER other guests have.
Do you have any advice in how to approach this with them?
Should we be clear and tell them that, since we had some extra space, we extended the invitation list and want to invite them too?
Or not say anything at all?
How did you manage the issue?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t say anything unless they brought it up and even then I’d probably blame the post office or whatever company printed the STDs
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2011 - Sweet ceremony by the sea and sunset celebration on the North Shore of Hawaii
we didn’t say anything at all. We’re just as thrilled to invite them and trying to explain ourselves would make it awkward. This also has applied to us when we were b list wedding guests, we were thrilled to be invited. Hope this helps!
Post # 5
I think regardless of what you say people are still going to consider themselves second rate guests. I know that sounds harsh, but that’s the reality of it. I wouldn’t send out STD’s to them at all, and instead just send invitations. Remember that once you send someone an STD they are guaranteed and invite. A lot can change between now and when people get to RSVPing. What if you send your B-listers STDs and then the majority of your A list ends up RSVPing yes? Then you’re stuck with an inflated guest list that you didn’t intend to have.
Post # 6
@shaydenise: hmm that is a really good point! For us though it might be a problem to only send the invite as our wedding will be a destination wedding for most of our guest list, and they need some advance notice in order to make their travel plans accordingly.
@LGenz: Lol not sure I’d have the nerve to do that! I think I’d get all red in the face and start avoiding eye contact…
@ostrich: Thanx, I think I also would understand if I was in someones B list… Perhaps I should not worry about it to much, if they want to come that will and if they don’t…
Post # 7
I would just send them the save the date without saying anything. If they ask you what’s up with it arriving after everyone elses just tell them the truth! Admitt that you had family that needed to be invited first, and that you were very excited to get the opportunity to invite them to your small destination wedding when others declined.