Post # 1
My best friend got engaged a few months ago and is getting married next year. I am so excited for her and have relished hearing about all of the wedding planning so far. She is not a particularly traditional bride, however, and they are planning a somewhat small wedding. My friend has neither asked me to be in the wedding yet nor mentioned a wedding party. I couldn’t care less if she chose not to have a wedding party–that’s not for me to decide! However, as her closest friend, I would love to still throw her a bachelorette party or maybe even a shower. Is there a tactful way to ask if she’s planning on having a wedding party or if someone else has already taken up this kind of duty? Should I just ask if I can throw her the party? I just don’t want to step on anyone toes and, more than anything, I want to make sure that my friend feels honored. Please help!
Post # 3
@heythatsnotmyname: Don’t ask about the wedding party because there is no way to do that without seeming pushy. I would offer to throw a bacerollette party though! Just say that you would love to host a party in her favor and let her know how thrilled you are for her!
Post # 4
Definitely skip any mention of the bridal party. Just say you’d like to help throw her a shower/her bachelorette.
Post # 5
You have plenty of time. I’d say nothing right now and would wait to see what she’s planning. If it’s small, you would not invite people to a shower or bachelorette party if they aren’t going to be invited to the wedding. Once you know, of course you can offer, even if you haven’t been asked to be in a wedding party. For all you know, she’s not having a wedding party, is having one attendant only etc. I would not mention anything about your role in the wedding, that’s for her to bring up.
Post # 6
Do not ask. If she has a party and you are to be apart of it, she will ask.