Post # 1
One of my bms just asked me what I wanted to do for my bachelorette party. What I would really like to do is have a lingerie shower before, then hit the bars after. The problem is, I feel like it would be rude and pretty inappropriate for me to ask for one. Is there a good way to ask? Or should I just tell her “surprise me” and see what happens?
Post # 3
I think it would be rude to ask for one 🙁 but maybe not if she is a really, really good friend? Do you think the likelyhood of getting one is high if you just say surprise me?
Post # 4
Probably not, but I’m not sure.
Post # 5
I thought about saying “one of my friends had one and she said it was a blast,” but I’m thinking that may be too forward.
Post # 6
How close are you with your BMs? If they’re family, it’s much harder, but if it’s your besties, maybe you could just be pretty straightforward and say “I feel really awkward saying this because it makes me feel demanding, and I don’t want to pressure you into it, but what do you guys think about doing a lingerie shower followed by drinks?” I would also suggest a couple other things you would like to do that wouldn’t involve getting gifts, so they see you are genuine about not wanting to lay on pressure.
It definitely depends on the relationship you have with the girls.
Post # 7
I think you should just tell your friend and see what she says. I don’t think it’s too much to ask. Also – it’s pretty typical (in my circles) to bring the bride some lingerie at the bachelorette.
I’ll also note – during one of my bridal showers I got lingerie from most of the guests (it wasn’t asked for but it was evening shower and people assumed) – and I ended up returning everything I could (because it was NOT what DH liked).
Post # 8
@CountryBee11: Shower and bacelorette party are 2 seperate events and should be treated as such. I do think you can suggest a linergie shower as the “theme” I do not think you can suggest a lingerie shower before the bacelorette party.
Post # 9
i don’ think it is weird to ask! but, i am super close to my girls… i guess it depends.
Post # 10
A bunch of my friends have done lingerie showers before or as their bachelorette party. I think it’s relatively common. Depending on your relationship, you can mention it to the girl you’re closest with and see what she says.