@Gabthebee: A honeymoon registry. There are several, so do your research. Some require a % from the purchaser. We chose Travelers Joy, because the gift-giver contribute what they want for say, a romantic dinner on the beach, island tour, etc… Then, WE pay the %. We did not want to inconvenience our guests by having to contribute even more. That would be horrible.
We said on our website (and ONLY on the website, nothing mentioned on invitations at all), something like:
“…While a wedding registry tends to be a standard for many couples, we want you all to know that your presence alone is the biggest gift we could ever ask for. While pots and pans come and go, it is really the things in life money can’t buy that we will never have enough of: memories and quality time!
Since many of our loved ones have been so sweetly insistent upon sending us off with a “token of their love”, we have made it possible for those generous folks to do so via our honeymoon registry. There are few things more meaningful to us then our family and friends being a part of our first real adventure as “husband and wife”. In the event that you would like more information, simply click the Traveler’s Joy logo below or to be taken to our official Honeymoon Registry…”
Again, we only listed a few excursions, dinner on the beach, couples massages, etc., as we have already paid for our airfare and suite. So, we wouldn’t be heartbroken if everyone didn’t gift us, not would it impede on our honeymoon plans all that much. I didn’t want to rely on all of our guests to foot the whole bill. And, on the other hand, we don’t need/want cash or traditional gifts. So, we felt this was a good middleground, as many people will get you a gift, even if you ask not them not to. We did make sure to avoid putting anything too expensive, as if we “expected” an expensive gift to start with
Nonetheless, the money the contribute to all of those things simply gets drafted into your bank anyway. So you could technically disburse it how you please. I think by not doing a registry at all (as mentioned above/below), you will end up getting some cash, some people who don’t gift at all and more toasters than you want (because for most adults, one is already one too many). : )