How to ask if I can bring my infant to a wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
62 posts
Worker bee

I think if they’ve already made their wishes clear that its a kid free wedding, then I wouldn’t even ask.  I would politely decline if you can’t attend sans child.  If they contact you to ask why you can’t make it, then let them know.

Post # 5
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2828 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Mrscdnnavywife:  This is a tough one, because it happened to me where people would acknowledge one of my wedding rules and in the same breath ask for an exception. I took a lot of offense to it because I viewed it as people trying to impose their will on me despite knowing my wishes. But I eventually got over it. Maybe if you bring it up honestly and make it clear that your attendance is not depending on this. “hey, I’m just asking. I’ll be there regardless” goes a lot farther than “well, either cave to my demands or I can’t come.”

Also, can you broach the subject with your brother rather than the bride? That way he can bring it up to her and you’re not putting her on the spot. Maybe he could even make it seem like it was his idea? (i.e. “Babe, she let me bring my baby to her child-free wedding. Can we make an exception for her too?”) Best wishes!

 

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