How to ask SIL to be a bridesmaid?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: How to ask FSIL to be in our wedding party?
    Wait until you can go visit: it'll be much nicer in person! : (2 votes)
    12 %
    Give her a call! : (7 votes)
    41 %
    Send an awesome card. Bonus: doesn't put her on the spot. : (7 votes)
    41 %
    Other (explain) : (1 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 4
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    518 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think either of the three options you have are appropriate!

    Post # 5
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    957 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    card then you can always give her a follow up call a bit later (personally, I would pay for her dress if she’s in a tough financial situation however I’m british and will be paying for all my maids dresses etc..)

    Post # 7
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    957 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @DomesticDiva:  I’m not suggesting you would/could, I think it’s just a culture thing more than anything. I just can’t imagine making someone pay for the dress etc.., it’s like the height of rudness here but it seems norm in US, hope it works out for you though! 🙂

    Post # 9
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    1952 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My FSiL doesn’t like the attention being on her, so I sent her a message and gave her time to think about it. She agreed, and we worked around her self-confidence issues. She’s paid for her dress, and if it hasn’t arrived yet it will soon, so she can’t back out now – I definitely don’t want her to!

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