Post # 1
I’m in the process of trying to shop for an engagement ring and stumbled on to this website. I’ve stopped in stores with the Ms. a few times when we have been out shopping, so I have a good idea of the styles of engagement rings she likes and doesn’t like.
I found this board searching for the average carat size of an engagement ring and the types of things that make a woman feel proud of her ring or disappointed by it. I love my Ms. dearly and if I had all the money in the world, would get her a ring worthy of royalty. Unfortunately I don’t. I have a limited budget of about $8000 but want to get something she can wear proudly. I know she will love what I get her because she knows all the thought behind it, but I never want her to have to justify her ring by saying “I love it because my boyfriend gave it to me”.
What makes a woman want to show off a ring? Is it the size? The uniqueness? The flawlessness/clarity? For women that felt disappointed or embarassed, was it because the rock was too small?
Right now I’ve zeroed in on a 1.25-G-VS1 in a 14k channel setting with .30 tw.
I’ve noticed I can get a bigger stone by dropping into H&I colors and the SI1&2 ranges.
Which better? The clearer more flawless stone, or the size? I’m just deathly afraid of putting something on her finger that will look cheap and she will find herself justifying to her peers. I know ladies can be catty to each other sometimes.
Post # 3
@mrsoze: You sound sweet!
I’d stick with the stone you have. Getting into the SI ranges is risky, and if she’s color sensitive, you don’t want to go below a G.
1.25 is very respectable.
The only thing I question is the channel set band. A lot of ladies don’t like that style. Pave is more popular and sparkles more. Channel set is good if she works with her hands or is athletic… it protects the diamonds a bit more.
It’s a number of things that make the ring liked… personally I look for quality and I would be happy with a 1.25 with those specs. Absolutely. I’d prefer platinum over gold… you need to re-dip white gold so it’s a bit more maintenance… but it’s perfectly fine for an engagement ring if she hasn’t said she has a preference for it (and the 14k means a bigger diamond!).
ETA: Yeah, size matters to me as well… I definitely would not want something below a carat, 1.25 is lovely.. my coworker has one and it sparkles like mad and is a good size!
Post # 4
You should not sacrifice Quality for Quantity, get her a smaller stone, but a very high quality one. If it was anything other than an engagement ring like earrings, it is okay to go lower quality, because you don’t look at earrings as closely as you do engagement rings.
Im sure whatever you get her she will love, because it came from you.
Post # 5
I wa able to pick the setting that I wanted. That made a huge difference for me. I knew that I loved everything about it. There are so many beautiful rings out there, but none of them felt like me except the setting I chose. FI already had the diamond, and it was more beautiful and larger than I ever thought I would be given.
If you’re comfortable with it, I would let her at least choose her setting if not her setting and the diamond.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
@canarydiamond: +1. 1.25 is definitely respectable- do you know what size her hand is? I was also going to comment on the channel setting- they’re not really the preferred ring by a lot of women, so make sure you know that she likes that style
Post # 7
@canarydiamond: Thanks for the feedback. I did a lot of reading on this topic too. I kept hearing about women complaining about how the pave diamonds would irritate the pinky and middle fingers from rubbing against it. Is there a way to avoid this? I wasn’t the biggest fan of the channel myself because the glass really obscured the diamonds and didn’t look as stunning as being un covered.
Post # 8
@mrsoze: Full Disclosure: My ring is not a diamond, it’s a moissanite, so I don’t feel qualified telling you what specs I would be proud of in a diamond.
However, I can tell you the things that make me the most proud of my ring. I love how sparkly it is, I love how unique the band is and that I have sapphire side stones which make it more unique. I love that the stone is large enough to be noticeable but not gaudy. And I really, really love that he picked out a cushion cut…..and then had it kite set. That’s not something you see very often with cushions.
Post # 9
My answer is not up there. I’d say a balance between the size and quality. Looks like you have a good balance there. I wouldn’t go any lower than H, and I’d only pick out an SI if I could see the stones in person and anaylze the flaws myself. If going from VS1 to VS2 buys you anything, I’d consider that. My husband got a F/VS2 and I love the quality rating it has, but once ni a blue moon, I wish he’d gone down to H/ eye clean SI for a little more size.
Post # 10
To get more for your money I highly suggest a wholesale diamond dealer, there will be no sacrifice that way. Good luck!
Post # 11
@mrsoze: I definitely would rather have a higher quality stone vs a bigger one of poorer quality. I have a G, VVS1, Triple ex cut, H&A that is less than a carat, and I would rather have it than a 1ct or larger lower quality stone.
Post # 12
@mrsoze: Having a half eternity really helps. I have small fingers (5.5) and a half eternity right hand ring, and the only time it bothers me is when my hand is cold and the ring spins and the diamonds actually touch my skin.
Post # 14
@MeiFrancis: Her ring size is a 5.
The pave settings I encounter are running in the 3mm range all the way up to the 3.5mm range. I’m worried about that being way to heavy for her slender fingers.
I only swithced from channel to the pave because I read about people getting their fingers eaten up by the uncovered diamonds on the pave settings. Is this not the majority case?
Thank you again to everyone for all of this feedback. The purchase process has been a bit overwhelming. I imagine not all to unsimilar to what you ladies go through when buying your wedding dress!
Post # 15
I agree with Loves a Fire. It is also important to keep in mind that every diamond is different and not all diamonds are graded equally–GIA certified diamonds are gradeed more consistently than say, EGL stones. Are you buying local or are you looking online?
Post # 16
That’s so sweet!
As far as ‘quantity over quality,’ that’s something that you should definitely talk to her about.
I know a lot of ladies that would prefer a slightly yellower stone in exchange for more size, but a very very white stone was a BIG deal for me. Fortunately, FI felt the same way.
I’d pick a D-F color half carat over a J-L color full carat every time. But again, that’s MY preference and I know of at LEAST a dozen women who feel the complete opposite way.
Your best bet is to ask her about it. 🙂