Post # 1
Due to my culture, it’s quite common to have wedding crashers. Although I’m actually okay with having SOME crashers at the wedding, I don’t want it to get out of hand. I’ve heard of some weddings having as much as an additional 200 people in crashers alone, and of course, I can’t have that.
So, to avoid that, I’m thinking of setting up a table at the door with a hostess or 2 where the guests will give their name and they can point out which table to sit at. Anyone who is crashing will be seated after invited guests if there is room.
Is this a good idea? Is there another way for me to handle it? Has anyone else had to deal with this?
Post # 3
Hmm…sounds like a good idea, but I wouldn’t want to imagine up to 200 crashers…wow that is a WHOLE lot!
Post # 4
I think the hostess thing and list is a great idea. You’re being really generous to even let them crash. I would so not let any crashers in – unless it was Vince Vaughn. He can come 😉
Post # 5
I think that’s a good idea. People in my hometown like to crash weddings too, so I had my wedding 2 hours north of my hometown, solved the problem for me! Since you probably don’t want to do that, then I think having a hostess table is a really smart idea!
Post # 6
LOL @ Kitty. I was thinking the same thing.
The hostesses “guarding” the doors is a perfect idea.
Post # 7
That’s about it… pretty much you have to have assigned tables for people so you know right away who doesn’t belong. A bridesmaid or two, or a trusted friend can probably fill the hostess role. The other thing we’ll likely do at ours is assign one of our groomsmen on “crasher duty” (he used to be a bouncer!). Dinner shouldn’t be too bad, but the part where you have to be careful is once the dancing starts if you have an open bar. It’s a lot harder to keep track of people then!
Post # 8
We’re in a large hall with several rooms, and the venue told us that they have staff to hang out in the common areas and make sure people aren’t party jumping from one room to another.
Otherwise, we’re probably going to ask the Dads to do some kind of crasher duty since they know most of our guests anyways. I don’t expect we’ll have many plus ones that we don’t know, so we should be good.
Post # 9
That’s a good idea! I’m considering that, definately want no crashers
Post # 10
Typically, the weddings that I’ve attended they did have someone stationed at the doors to the reception room with a list of invited guests and informed them of where they were sitting. If it is a smaller wedding, it is much easier to inform your guests that it will be a very small wedding and that only the nearest and dearest have been invited (and kind of hint to them that they can’t bring any unexpected guests).
Post # 11
Excellent question…I’m not worried about 200 crashers. I’m only worried about this one particular woman. My sister and I are both friends with her daughter but this woman is just downright NUTS! She came to my sister’s highschool graduation party completely uninvited then announced she was going back home to get her other 2 children so they could come get some food. She did the exact same thing at my high school graduation as well as showed up to my sister’s bridal shower uninvited and the wedding.
Post # 12
Wow…I didn’t know that wedding crashers were really that common!!! Now I have something new to worry about! Ha!
Post # 13
I’m getting married in a rural community center directly next to the only night club in the county (for reals), so I’m guessing I’ll get a few crashers from the bar. My plan is that we got some aquaitances (sp?) to serve as our bartenders, and they will double as bouncers. If just a couple of people drift in and have a drink then leave, we’re going to let it slide, but if anyone abuses the open bar, we’re throwing them out. So, my bartenders are basically serving as judge, jury, and executioners.
Post # 14
@YSQueen: What culture do you come from? I was just wondering what culture traditionally has a lot of wedding crashers, I haven’t heard of this before!
Post # 15
Wow, that’s a lot of extra people. I’m worried about the same and we are telling people that the number invited per invitation is on the RSVP card, since we know that many times the crashers are extras that come along with other invited guests. I also want people helping out with the escort cards and seating arrangements, that’s a good idea, that way there aren’t any mix-ups either.
Post # 16
@MightySapphire – My family is from west Africa, Nigeria, to be exact. Wedding crashers are quite common.