How to be patient while waiting for a ring!

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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254 posts
Helper bee

I feel your pain – been with my bf for almost 4 years as well and WAITING! I have found that keeping as busy as you can works best, keeps your mind slightly off it! I have started to go to the gym more, work more and do more with friends as well as hang out with him a lot.. then I’m so tired at night I just go to sleep and don’t think too much lol

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I don’t understand why people have to wait to be engaged. Either you are engaged or your not. You do not need a ring to be engaged. I say if you want to marry this guy ask him to marry you? They make engagement rings for guys called management rings. 

Post # 4
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58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Laguna Hills, CA

bekmarie41:  The best way to relax is to stop thinking about it too much 🙂 I know its hard! Try to focus on things that don’t have anything to do with marriage/engagement. Whenever people would ask me why I wasn’t engaged yet or why hasn’t he proposed.. I would say “Oh it will happen” with a smile & then change the topic and talk about other great things happening in my life.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Laguna Hills, CA

Bored6:  Management ring? Lol I have never heard of that. Ladies just need to be patient, and you are right you don’t technically need to wait if both of you want to get married and he doesn’t have the ring yet. But* if he is saving up for a ring & planning a proposal.. allow him to have his moment. 🙂 

Post # 6
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40 posts
Newbee

If the ring is the only reason why you are not engaged why not buy a stand in ring (cheap cz ring or silver ring)? You can  get engaged and then save up the money for a ring and wedding in the near future. Im not from the US but reading some comments here on the forum it really seems that having a big expensive ring is more important than the engagement itself and that if you dont have a huge diamond to show of you are not engaged. 

Im from Europe and most of the engagement rings here are plain bands. Most people would never spend 5000+ dollars a for a ring. I hope im not offending anyone but the engagement should be valued more than a piece of jewelry.

Maybe you should talk to your boyfriend and tell him that he doesnt need to buy an expensive ring and that you could be engaged with a symbolical ring or even without a ring and save up the money later. <br /><br />

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

I am in the same position. BF is about to graduate college. I pushed and pushed and pushed. He finally put a ring on layaway, which I’m happy about but my friends think he only bought it “because you pushed him”,unevenness though I know he would’ve eventually bought it on his own

Post # 9
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136 posts
Blushing bee

He took so long buying it because he thought he needed a REALLY expensive one to look better than my friends. Since they got proposed to after 2.5 years and we are almost at 6 years I guess he thought he already “looks like a bad BF” but finally I convinced him to buy affordable 

Post # 10
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4762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

We are the same age. It will be 5 years in Dec and we both graduate in May. We started looking at rings in January. It was really hard because every girl I worked with was younger than me and already engaged and combined their relationships we’re even half the time I had been with my SO. My best friend got engaged and I was MOH for her wedding. It may seem like it’s never going to happen, but it will. I had to constantly remind myself, that I should not be jealous of the girls I worked with because their relationships were shit. Literally, none of them are still engaged. I understand that he wants to buy you and ring and he thinks it should be nice. Have you considered a moissanite? You get a lot more bang for you buck. Also, we’ve been engaged for 1.5 months now. We designed my ring and it was about 8k, but it was not ready when he proposed. It’s still not ready. He proposed with a $40 cz from berricle and no one knows the difference. Well the people who actually know me, know that it is not my real ring, but strangers are always telling me it is gorgeous. Point being, you don’t need an expensive ring to be engaged because people don’t give a shit how much it cost. They will look at your hand and know you are engaged and say congrats, then they will go on about their day. Just enjoy this time of waiting, because you really will miss it. 

Here’s my stand in: 

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