How To Be Polite To Relative Who Likes To Take Over?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
Member
1209 posts
Bumble bee

This sounds awful! Your poor cousin! I wouldn’t mention anything to her about the wedding until youve booked each thing. If she asks you about specific things like a cake, say you have already sorted it. If she asks about a dress say you arent even looking yet, or that you have already sorted it. You definitely don’t want to end up in the same situation as your cousin. To keep her quiet you could dedicate something small for her to take care of that you arent that bothered about. For example ask her for her ideas about favours or place settings and ask if she would be so kind as to help you make them. If she thinks you are involving her she will be happy and hopefully throw all her time into that one thing youve given her leaving you the rest of the wedding.

Post # 3
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511 posts
Busy bee

It sounds like she hasn’t done a thing to try to dominate your wedding. If she offers to, say, make your wedding dress, say no. 

And life is uncomfortable feelings. So if anything arises, just handle it like an adult and say “No, thank| or “We’re planning this thing ourselves”. 

Post # 5
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45278 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

brendaray2009:  So don’t ask her. If she offers to do anything, just tell her “We’ve got that covered”.

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