- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
I was at a bridal shower for my cousin about two weeks ago. One of my aunts was questioning me about my wedding: “When is it going to be?”, “How many in the bridal party?”, “how many guests? Simple or religious?” I gave short answers because if you mention anything to this woman she will try to jump in and take over, as she is doing with my cousin’s wedding. Even if you don’t directly ask her, she will go out and do it. She is making my cousins dress, and she is getting married this Friday, and the dress has yet to be delivered to her! Last week she went over and tried on a shell, and it wasn’t even finished. When my cousin asks her, she gets no details. She may even be making a dish for the reception (God help us all!), and she won’t say what she is bringing. She is also purchasing the cake, without giving my cousin details about flavors or nothing. I know as my date creeps closer, more questions will come my way. I don’t want to be out and out rude, but she is one of those types who does not take a hint. When I said the wedding was going to be “simple and religious”, she said it is one or the other. My other aunt said to her, “It can be simple and religious. Religious doesn’t mean formal”. She also assumed because my fiance is Puerto Rican that there were going to be tons of people there.
How do I keep the peace in the family, and still keep my sanity? I don’t talk about the wedding on Facebook or anything like that. We keep the planning details to ourselves. I just don’t want any uncomfortable feelings.