Post # 1
My boyfriend and I have discussed getting married for a while now (we’ve been dating almost 9 years). He won’t propose until he has a full time job…currently working part time.
I really really really want a moissy instead of a diamond. I love space and the fact that it was originally discovered on an asteroid is absolutely amazing.
I want to mention it to my boyfriend since we’ve been talking seriously about this for a few months…even deciding that eloping might be the way to go for us.
The problem is that he is currently in the middle of a long (1 month+) job interview (tests to take, background checks, etc). He should find out in a few weeks if he’ll get the job or not.
So should I mention that I want a moissy now…or wait until he finds out? I don’t want to ask him now because he’ll feel more pressured…but I don’t want to wait because if he gets the job he’s likely to go out and get a diamond right away (we set a $1000 price tag for my e-ring which I know he has saved up)
Post # 3
@ranyamellon: I told my SO about Moissaniteby showing him the website diamondssuck.com. I approached it in kind of a “Guess what I found out” way. He seemed very interested. He’s an engineer so he’s into that kind of stuff.
As far as the timing goes, I wouldn’t say something if he’s the nervous type and has a lot of anxiety about his job and stuff. I knew I needed to tell my engineer as soon as possible to get the wheels turning–he takes a long time to mull things over.
Plus $1000 should get you a MUCH nicer ring than if you were buying a diamond!
Post # 4
I would say to bring it up now and let him get used to the idea! Just tell him you want it instead of a diamond so that he knows for when he gets his fulltime job 🙂
Post # 5
I say just tell him. If it’s the center stone you want, approach him before he even gets the job, just say, “Hey, if you’re planning on e-ring shopping at ANY point in the future, I want you to start here because this is what I would like for my stone…” etc.
Also, mention to him that with $1000 he can get an AMAZING and enhanced Amora Moissanite that will be bigger and possibly higher quality than a diamond with the same amount.
My Fiance paid 1060.00 total for my e-ring, and it’s a 1 carat center enhanced with a halo! 😉
Post # 6
@missjuli: This is basically what I did. I’d been researching it for about a week when I decided it’s what I really wanted, and when I finally brought it up, it was with a “hey, look at this really cool stone I heard about!” and it just went from there.
I’d just tell him now and stress that there’s no pressure on your end, but you wanted your preferences out there should he start thinking about shopping.
Post # 7
So last night my boyfriend and I were watching the finale for Big Bang Theory. Don’t want to ruin it for you if you haven’t seen it so let’s just say that there was a great opportunity to bring up a moissy…and he was totally against it.
So to see if it was that he was against a “diamond look alike” or not, I suggested a sapphire (which I also really like). and he essentially said he wants to get me a diamond, because if he doesn’t, people will think he’s cheap. And by people, he really means his family (his mom and sister are very very materialistic).
But not all hope is lost….because he has given the moissy a nickname (space-rock) which means he actually kind of likes it (he knows how much i looooooove space). So for now I just have to wait and hope he gets this job and will hope he will warm up to the idea even more while that happens!
Post # 8
@ranyamellon: 🙂 My Fiance thought the same thing, was straight up and hard headed about NO moissanite cuz he might come off as cheap, and hes not gonna settle for somehing that isnt ” real” and yada yada yada.. and guess what I have now? a Moissy 😀 Cuz I showed him that I DO Want one- its not because I am trying to make it easy on him but because really really, I want one.. he saw how much I would love one and how much I disliked diamonds, he finally settled and got me whta I want cuz its something Ill wear. Dont worry! your man will warm up to the idea, Just show him much youd rather a moissy then anythingn else 🙂
Post # 9
@ranyamellon: my SO had the same initial reaction…. BUT i won out and got my moissy in the end. 🙂 he still says “i want to upgrade it to a diamond someday” and i always say “what?? i want to upgrade to the amora gem at some point, but really never want a diamond.” and then he’ll say “oh okay, just checking. i want to make sure you didn’t compromise just because it was cheaper.” so i think he’s just having a hard time accepting that some people really don’t want a diamond. if you hold your ground, i bet you’ll win over in the end. just be really firm on your reasons why you want a moissy, show him pics of others’ rings, etc.
Post # 10
@ranyamellon: I know a few other Bees have had the same issue with their families, and they just don’t tell them it’s not a diamond. Not sure if you’d want to do that but it’s an option!
Post # 11
tell him now so it doesn’t appear that it hinges upon getting the job or not