Post # 1
My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple years at this point. And have actually started planning our wedding. Currently we are planning a 2012 wedding. the only catch is we aren’t engaged.
We talk about getting engaged all of the time. It seems all of my friends and the girls I go to school with are getting in engaged so it comes up frequently. Lately he has been bringing it up and saying it is all going to be a surprise, and it is all planned. my only concern is that the last time we talked about rings was well over a year ago. And since then my taste has changed. My want for something smaller than i initially told him. my biggest fear is that he bought a ring based on what we talked about back then and then it isnt what i would like or want at all.
I am looking for suggestions on how to bring this up! I jsut dont want him to go out and spend money on something that niether one if us will be happy with. As I wont be happy wearing it and he definitely wont be happy paying for it.
Any thoughts are welcome!
Post # 3
Send him hints from jewlery websites. LOL
Post # 4
Since you guys talk about getting engaged all the time, I would just simply bring it up and let him know that you’re excited about planning your next step as a couple and that you have been looking at rings and you’ve found that rings x, y, and z strike your fancy.
For me, my FI was dead set on picking the ring out himself and making it a surprise. He asked me to tell him some things that I wanted, but we never picked out rings together. I was very scared that he would pick something that I didnt care for, but he actually did a really good job.
Post # 5
I agree, if you’re already openly talking about the wedding, you can totally give him some guidance on what you want. My SO and I are in a similar situation (where I know the proposal is coming soon, but don’t know the details), and I’ve given him my top criteria – things I definitely want in a ring (metal type, details like sidestones/halo setting, center stone preference). I’ve also sent him some examples that I’ve found online of rings I really like. With that info, he’s working on his own to find a ring. If it’s important to you that he knows how your tastes have changed, just tell him.
Post # 6
This is what I did (hah!) but FI and I would be walking at a department store and I would say “Oh, let’s go look at something while we have a minute”. Then we would proceed to the jewelry counter in which I would pretend to be looking at watches or whatever. Then we would eventually gravitate towards the rings and I would say “what do you think about this one?” and point to a diamond. Then he would give his two cents in, etc. etc. I think it broke the ice.
Post # 7
I also did this! and I send him hints in emails or flip through a jewlery shopping channel when nothing else is on and start talking about what I like in jewlery and what I don’t like.
Post # 8
@smcgirly01: Send him a wishlist.
Post # 9
I would just talk to him about it – Most guys just aren’t good with subtle hints…
I’ve had a lot of people compliment my ring by saying what a good job Fi did picking it out.
How that happened:
1. I found ring.
2. I told Fi about ring.
3. I showed him the ring.
4. I got the perfect ring (with no stress for either of us:)