Post # 1
My fiance and I recently decided to cancel the reception we were having at his parent’s home. After much conflict over many things (and still 5 months out from the wedding) we decided to just cancel it. We have elected to now have a private ceremony (immediate family only) and have a dinner/night out with just a few close friends the day after our ceremony.
I am generally done being upset over it, but now, logisitically, I don’t know what to do about the other 30ish people we need to inform about our decision. We have sent out save the dates, but not invitations. Do we need to send something to our guests saying that we have cancelled our reception, or do we have to call? Will people get the hint if they just don’t get an invite? Do we send a wedding announcement afterward either way? I don’t want to appear as if we are fishing for gifts, but I also want people to know that we did get married.
I apologize if my thoughts are a bit scattered, any advice welcome.
Post # 3
It’s rude to send a save the date and not an invitation. I would promptly contact all of your guests via a written note (personalized) explaining the situation, apologizing for any inconvenience, and your hopes that you can get together with the person soon.
Post # 4
@leslie2792: You do need to reach out to them, either via note or a phone call. A Save The Date is asking them to save that date. For you. They need to know as soon as possible that they no longer need to save that date. It is not right to leave them hanging, possibly making non-refundable travel arrangements.
They’ll understand, as long as you let them know asap.
I probably would not send an announcement afterwards but that’s up to you.
Post # 5
Your new plan sounds simple and lovely. I think calling or writing each person who got a STD is certainly required; writing has the advantage of not having to answer a lot of questions and repeating yourself. I don’t think an announcement afterward is needed since you would have already told everyone that you are indeed getting married. What we did was send a wedding snapshot in our holiday greeting cards. Hope your wedding is wonderful!
Post # 6
Yeah, I would definitely write everyone a letter (preferably hand-written), saying that you and FI changed your plans due to unforseen circumstances, and you’ll be getting married just the two of you.