(Closed) How to cheer FI up after a bad day…any ideas?!

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Does he have a favorite dinner?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

This may be TMI, but when I know FI has had a bad day, I will try to get home before him, so that I can “prepare” the apt. Then as soon as he comes in jump on him. You know that sex is a huge stress reliever.

Also, if you have time, pick up some beer. I love to stand right at the door so that as soon as he opens it I have a fresh beer already cracked open to put in his hand πŸ™‚ My FI just loves that πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

give him a back and shoulder massage! My man loves this after a bad day.  Relieves some of the stress.  You could also fix his favorite meal and let him pick out a movie or something.  There are times that I even suggest that he calls up his boys and just has a guy night if he wants to. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i say massage – no need for him to talk if he doesnt want to, some nice music and you guys can re-connect a bit by just touching

hubby has been working 20hrs a day for the past week and last night about 1am i walked into hubbys office (at home) just to give him a 5min head & shoulder massage at his desk and he feels so much better for it

 

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Depends what kind of “bad day” we’re talking about. I know the difference between “boy what a rough day, I need a hug” and “i’m so crabby i need some space”. The latter, i just leave him be =]. The first, i give him a hug, pour him a glass of wine, and sit quietly and snuggle with him while we watch a movie.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

coughing TMI but it involves stiletto a thong and an apron.. let’s just say it really doesn’t matter what i’m cooking and dessert usually comes before everything else but he always seems to be in a better mood afterwards πŸ˜€

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Dinner and a massage and snuggle time is usually what works for my boy. Maybe take a walk or go to the park and play frisbee if its not too cold!

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

for J, it’s all about me sitting cross legged in front of the tv so he can lay his head in my lap and let me run my fingers through his hair/scratch his scalp while he noshes out to whatever show about cars or inventions is on tv.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think there are a lot of options depending on what he needs.  Most of the time my fiance just prefers sharing a bottle of wine and then watching a movie to help him unwind.  But sometimes, he wants to talk it out a bit, and I listen.  And sometimes we just make ice cream because ice cream makes everything better all the time.  

But usually it starts by my asking if I can do anything for him and what his preferences are for dinner.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

haha the first thing that came to mind was do you want the G version or the R rated version??

This is hard to determine as every guy is different. My guy likes space after a rough day… or something R rated, but if it was REALLY bad space is usually more effective.

I would say make him a nice dinner & just cuddle. Just have a comfortable time & don’t push him to talk or cheer up! Just support & love him πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It depends on what kind of a bad day (sometimes he needs space and going into his Man Cave) leave him alone at that point.

But mostly I jump him, shake my booty at him, make really silly gestures and comments until I see him start to smirk. My most popular move is doing the Cameron Diaz ala Charlies Angel booty dance to Pussycat dolls “Doncha” Actually I’ve done that to anyone that was cranky, you can’t help but laugh!

Then I’ll run my nails on his scalp and neck and just tell him how good of a man he is and he can get through anything.

Then i jump him and drag him off into the bedroom πŸ™‚

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