Post # 1
My fiance is having a rough day today. We were planning on spending the evening together just hanging out, and we still are, but I know it won’t be the mood I was hoping for. Do any of you have some creative ideas on how to cheer your man up when hes down? How do you let him know you are there for him and just want to have fun? So many times when he is down I end up getting in a bad mood and blaming it on him…I know that is that last thing he needs! What are your ideas?
Post # 3
Does he have a favorite dinner?
Post # 4
This may be TMI, but when I know FI has had a bad day, I will try to get home before him, so that I can “prepare” the apt. Then as soon as he comes in jump on him. You know that sex is a huge stress reliever.
Also, if you have time, pick up some beer. I love to stand right at the door so that as soon as he opens it I have a fresh beer already cracked open to put in his hand 🙂 My FI just loves that 🙂
Post # 5
give him a back and shoulder massage! My man loves this after a bad day. Relieves some of the stress. You could also fix his favorite meal and let him pick out a movie or something. There are times that I even suggest that he calls up his boys and just has a guy night if he wants to.
Post # 6
i say massage – no need for him to talk if he doesnt want to, some nice music and you guys can re-connect a bit by just touching
hubby has been working 20hrs a day for the past week and last night about 1am i walked into hubbys office (at home) just to give him a 5min head & shoulder massage at his desk and he feels so much better for it
Post # 7
Depends what kind of “bad day” we’re talking about. I know the difference between “boy what a rough day, I need a hug” and “i’m so crabby i need some space”. The latter, i just leave him be =]. The first, i give him a hug, pour him a glass of wine, and sit quietly and snuggle with him while we watch a movie.
Post # 8
coughing TMI but it involves stiletto a thong and an apron.. let’s just say it really doesn’t matter what i’m cooking and dessert usually comes before everything else but he always seems to be in a better mood afterwards 😀
Post # 9
Dinner and a massage and snuggle time is usually what works for my boy. Maybe take a walk or go to the park and play frisbee if its not too cold!
Post # 10
for J, it’s all about me sitting cross legged in front of the tv so he can lay his head in my lap and let me run my fingers through his hair/scratch his scalp while he noshes out to whatever show about cars or inventions is on tv.
Post # 11
I think there are a lot of options depending on what he needs. Most of the time my fiance just prefers sharing a bottle of wine and then watching a movie to help him unwind. But sometimes, he wants to talk it out a bit, and I listen. And sometimes we just make ice cream because ice cream makes everything better all the time.
But usually it starts by my asking if I can do anything for him and what his preferences are for dinner.
Post # 12
haha the first thing that came to mind was do you want the G version or the R rated version??
This is hard to determine as every guy is different. My guy likes space after a rough day… or something R rated, but if it was REALLY bad space is usually more effective.
I would say make him a nice dinner & just cuddle. Just have a comfortable time & don’t push him to talk or cheer up! Just support & love him 🙂
Post # 13
It depends on what kind of a bad day (sometimes he needs space and going into his Man Cave) leave him alone at that point.
But mostly I jump him, shake my booty at him, make really silly gestures and comments until I see him start to smirk. My most popular move is doing the Cameron Diaz ala Charlies Angel booty dance to Pussycat dolls “Doncha” Actually I’ve done that to anyone that was cranky, you can’t help but laugh!
Then I’ll run my nails on his scalp and neck and just tell him how good of a man he is and he can get through anything.
Then i jump him and drag him off into the bedroom 🙂