Post # 1
I plan on having my cousin’s children serve as ring bearers/flower girls in my wedding.
Flower girls are relatively easy – there is a 3 y.o. on my dad’s side and a 3 or 4.y.o. on my mom’s side. The 4.y.o. is very shy and might not walk down the isle, but I’d still love for her to dress up and maybe make it into a few photos…
Ring bearers are a lot harder, there are 3 boys on my dad’s side, age 3-5, and 5 boys age 3-9 on my mom’s side. I could not ask the two 9 y.o’s, but I don’t know if they’d feel left out if their younger sibs were in the wedding. They could usher… that might be cute? If not, my sister’s husband and a friend would usher (haven’t asked them, but I’m sure they would).
I was thinking maybe I’d just send out a mass email and say I’d love to have anyone who wants to do it? Then see who responds yet? If I have 5 ringer bearers and 2 flower girls, just to go with it?? I was planning on providing the flower girls dresses and ties for the boys (I’d ask them to wear black pants, suspenders, and button downs). Does that sound reasonable?
Thanks in advance for any input!
Post # 3
this couple had a “kid parade” which I thought was a really cute idea!
Post # 4
@78h2o: I have two kids and my brother has two kids.
Speaking as a mother, I’d see it as unfair to have only the girls involved and not the boys. At that age, would the kids really understand and NOT be jealous/envious? HIGHLY doubtful. It’s like saying “your daughters a cute but your sons are not”.
Again, that’s MY opinion.
Here’s what I’m doing:
I have two kids, a son (9) and daughter (5). I want my nephews involved, too (two boys ages 8 & 5). To keep the peace, we’re having my FI’s neice involved (age 3). Total of 5 kids.
The two girls are going to be flower girls (mini bouquets for both).
My son will be ring bearer.
My two nephews are going to “escort” the flower girls.
IF the one shy girl has an older sibling who IS NOT, he could escort his sister down the aisle. Problem solved. 🙂 If not, she might be okay with having an older boy walking her down the aisle, anyway.
Just a thought and it would look cute in photos, too 😉
Post # 5
i didnt have ring bearers but i did have 1 flower girl and 2 flower girl “escorts” my husband has 2 brothers 12 and 10 and his youngest sister is 7 so she was our flower girl.
Kate Middleton had a bunch of kids! i thought it was really neat.
Post # 6
We are doing “Procession of Children” we have over 60 kids attending!
I asked that any parents who wanted to let children walk dress them in one of our wedding colors (or combo of) and I am giving them each a chalk board sign (using thrift store photo frames and painting them myself to match our colors) and having them write one word that makes them think of love or marriage. I will have them walk down the aisle before my ring bearer (2) and flower girls (2) and my son who will carry a Here Comes The Bride Sign.
I am going to have the frames placed on the floor infront of the Groomsmen & BM’s
Post # 7
A kid parade/procession of children is a great idea!!! I will just have to think about how to do it – we’re having a more formal outdoor ceremony in an English courtyard/garden. We’re having a string trio play – I’ll have to think of how the kids could play instruments along with them or maybe just carry signs or nothing at all.
Hmmmmmmm. I do remember seeing wooden words, like “Love” “Family” “Smile” “Laugh” at the craft store… maybe I could do something with that???
@ryna – thanks for your input as well, esp. from a mother’s perspective… that’s kind of what I was thiking, that it wasn’t fair to ask one sibling and not the other… or even one family and not the other, since I’m equally close with all my cousins and their kids.
So I think I will either borrow the parade/procession idea or invent other roles…like the flower girl escorts.
I wanted to have our dog in the ceremony and have the older boys walk her down the isle (she’s little – 9 lbs), but my mom is strongly against this. She thinks having the dog at the wedding will really complicate matters… I sort of agree but still am considering it.
Post # 8
I think walking the dog down is ADORABLE! It might be a pain, but what cute pictures you will have!
Post # 9
@futuremrsmp – I agree, the photos would be so cute. I think it’s worth the hassle… Thanks for your comment, I may continue to push for this! 🙂
Here’s a photo of our pup, just cause I think she’s cute 🙂
Post # 10
Follow up: I wanted to thank everyone again for their input. We ended up including all the kids who wanted to be included and it was perfect!
We also included our dog!
The roles we ended up with were: flower girl (2), candle bearer (3), ring bearer, dog escort, and usher (2)…
F?YI: I got the dresses, bowties, suspenders, baskets, and baby’s outfit for $150 total ($44 for 2 flower girl dresses + cardigans (not shown), $40 for 2 flower girl baskets (this was a splurge but I loved the lace), $66 for six sets of suspenders and bow ties, baby’s outfit was free from a friend). We made all the boys bouts with flowers from my mom’s garden.