How to choose the best Maid of Honor

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Have you considered having more than one or even none labeled as the maid of honor?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Personally I’d just have your four best girls and no maid of honour. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am lining up my girls (except MOH because I do have one) based on their height and matched groomsmen, had nothing to do with an “order” of their role in my life.  I hope they are all mature enough to understand they are all equal to you and it doesn’t matter who stands where.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

@GeorgiaBride5:  +1 

 

When my maid of honor got married she did not have a maid of honor. She lined us up based on hieght. None of us were offended. 🙂 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think if you don’t automatically think of someone that you want, it is better not to have anyone. If you do decide to ask someone, I would definitely not ask the friend that you think might be reluctant, as we have seen what happens when people have problems with their MOH. Drama.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

don’t pick someone just because you have known them forever and feel obligated to put them in the MOH role, especially if your friendship has been rocky.

it is also ok to pick someone who you have grown close with but haven’t known that long.

and as others have mentioned, you can have everyone be BMs and not have an MOH.

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I say wait closer to the wedding to ask. Relationships, as you know change. Just wait until you are 6 months out to see where you stand. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

You do not have to have a maid of honor.

The worst thing you can do is choose someone to be MOH who isn’t in a position to support you the way you want/need her to.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You don’t have to have a MOH. You can ask the girls to be your BMs and if when it gets closer to your wedding you decide to have one as your MOH, then you can. When it comes to how they’ll stand by you, you could go in order of age, height, etc.

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