Post # 1
I have read alot of comments which have said not to expect any gifts…however if I’m being honest, I do expect to receive envelopoes at our wedding!
TO CLARIFY…I’m not having a wedding for the gifts!! But knowing my family and friends, it is customary to give a monetary gift at the wedding.
So, How is anyone planning on receiving? I’ve been to weddings were they have a pretty box at the bride and groom table for guests to put envelopes in….which my mom thinks is tacky…
I’ve also been to a wedding where the Grandfather went around with a big bag at the end collecting the envelopes…which I will definitely not do!
Post # 3
a co-worker got married a while ago and she asked me to be keeper of the envelopes during the night so as she/the groom received gifts she handed them to me (i stayed nearby during the first hour or so of the reception) and i made a white silk drawstring bag to put everything in. as they were sitting in the get away car saying goodbye i handed the bag to the bride and off they went.
it was very discrete, people gave them a gift and after thanking/chatting to them she would hand them to me during the meet & greets with guests
edit: the silk bag also had their airline tickets and passports as the next day there were flying out
Post # 4
I’ve never heard of a card box being at the Bride and Groom’s table. But at my wedding the guests just put the cards on the gift table along with all the other gifts. From some other weddings I’ve been to, the couple had a card box that was on a gift table near the entrace to the ceremony so that guests could leave their gifts there as they entered the ceremony area. The bride and groom had a greeter who handed out programs and also took the gifts and placed them on the table. So any cards that were given were placed right into the card box. That worked out well. Then the gifts and the card box were moved to a gift table in the reception area. Maybe your mom won’t think it’s so tacky if the card box is at a gift table instead of at the bride and groom table?
Post # 5
I didn’t know card boxes are tacky. I thought that’s how it’s done. I’ve seen cardboxes and some people also use other containers such like a bird cage to let guests put cards in.
I’ve seen people tending the gift table and guests just give the it to the person in charge of receiving gifts.
Post # 6
How could a card box be tacky if a gift table is not? I’m going to put a little basket for cards right next to the guest book where people walk in to the reception. They’ll get the idea without any cutesy signs or anything, and really, I think that will be less tacky and embarassing than having a designated person go around and gather them up.
Post # 7
I would use a card box/birdcage/other receptacle placed at a gift table, NOT the sweethearts table. Even with the advent of the internet and online registries, people still do it the old-fashioned way and hand carry gifts to weddings… so a gift table will be necessary.
Post # 8
i come from a tradition of envelopes.. typically the sign-in table is manned, there’s a card box where all the envelopes go – it’s just got to be v. secure and you want someone you trust to man the table – to keep an eye on the box.
we’re not having a manned sign-in so i’m just going to have a card box that can’t be opened without ripping it apart. after guests are in, the box will be put somewhere in a “secure” position.
Post # 9
I did a box I wrapped in paper and then stenciled thank you on for the card box. I will be on the gift table and then I’ll have the coordinator put it in the card after a little while
Post # 10
I don’t think card boxes are tacky at all. If they’re not placed in a good location and placed as if it seems that everyone must put in an envelope then it is tacky. I would just put a card box/bird-cage at the gift table or have someone handle the collection of envelopes from you throughout the night. Be ware of family members’ sticky fingers. I’ve heard of weddings where aunts, second cousins or whomever have taken the card box and left.
Post # 11
Thanks for bringing this topic up. I know many are a huge fan of the card box or birdcage but I’m not comfortable with it. I’m also not comfortable with guests just leaving envelopes mixed in with the gifts on a big table.
Back in my Bat Mitzvah days, when receiving an envelope, the guests gave them to my dad or grandfather. Now with my wedding, I was hoping they’d automatically give them to my Man of Honour, my brother.
I’m still looking for another solution so I’ll keep checking in for suggestions.
Post # 12
I definitely plan on using a card box. If I were a guest, and there were no card box I would be very, very confused and unsure about what to do with my gift for the couple. I definitely plan on having someone look after the box throughout the night. One more thing…I really think a beautiful card box can really add to the reception decor….I have seen some GORGEOUS ones!
Post # 13
I have no idea why a card box would be an issue. If anything, it looks LESS like an appeal for gifts than a gift table does, since no one can see whether the cards are merely good wishes or include money gifts.
Post # 14
We using a birdcage (theme has birds) with a little sign tied to it that says ‘Cards’
Post # 15
I have a really pretty card box that I bought at Michael’s. I think it is customary in NYC to give an envelope, as gifts are given at the bridal shower. It will probably sit at a side table next to my parents table who are throwing the party.
Post # 16
Card boxes are typically on the gift table from my attendance at weddings.