Post # 1
This one may be odd, but I’m stumped and turn to the hive for help.
When I was younger I attended church with my family and we had an awesome associate pastor. He was the best ever. He played a big role in my family with weddings and funerals.
A year or two ago he left the family church because of some issues with his wife . . it was romanitic in a sad way.
Any way I’ve lost touch with him, but really want him to perform my wedding. Fiance doesn’t really have a church, so he’s on board.
So here’s my question. Do I call him? Do I write a letter to him? And if I write a letter do I make it from just from me, or from Fiance and I. Pastor’s never met Fiance.
Post # 3
Either method is fine. If you send a letter, it’s ok to send it just from you. Do you have any way to get ahold of him since you mentioned that you lost contact?
Post # 4
Well I would try to find out if he is working at a new church and if so call him there. If not a personal phone call to him directly is not out of line. Just say that you felt he had been influential in your life and you are now getting married and would love for him to perform the ceremony. Many pastors may request to meet with you and your Fiance before doing the ceremony but if he doesn’t it would be no way rude to say something along the lines of I would love for you to meet my Fiance soon would having coffee some afternoon be okay?
Post # 5
I would say call him. See how he’s doing, and then bring up the fact that you’re getting married and was wondering if he could do the wedding since he played such a huge role in your earlier life. I wouldn’t make it from you Fiance because he’s never met him, and this is really you asking him since he meant a lot to you…