(Closed) How to convince him he’s not cheap!!!

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

no you are not wrong, yes a family diamond is a huge help but its also heartfelt and something that has a story – tell him if he still feels bad about it he can spend a heck more on the wedding band to make up for it πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@ms.oregon.state: I don’t have a family diamond. But if my hubby had given me a family diamond I would have loved it just as much I’m sure! Tell him it brings meaning to it, even though it will already have meaning to it just being an engagement ring its self this will include another meaning that is specail to you & something you can pass down to your future kids if you plan on having children. πŸ™‚ Also tell him when you guys hit the big 25 anni that he can get you a diamond , new. And pass down the family diamond to a child. Maybe that will help him out.

Post # 6
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

seriously, you have a story to tell about the diamond – what a lucky lady you are and yes, never underestimate the power of an upgrade πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

mine is using a family one too, hes excited about it since his family is pretty poor and just having something that valuable is thrilling. But for you I would talk to him about the history of having a family diamond and how special that will be for symbolizing the merging of two families and the stories you can tell to your children and grandchildren.  

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Family diamonds are awesome! You can’t purchase a family diamond anywhere. πŸ˜‰ I would have loved to have gotten a family diamond.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think family diamonds are really awesome, its so special and not cheap at all! Although, in my experience, I have found that men tend to connect diamonds and ego’s- he probably feels like he needs to spend a lot of money on your ring becuase it reflects on him (yes, they think that! ! πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

He’s not being cheap for not overspending by thousands on a diamond lol. My center stone was passed down from my mother & I don’t consider my ring cheap in the least. It just means when you show people you have an extra special story to go along with it. It can also be passed down to your future children down the road- that’s what we’ll do.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i would’ve LOVED a ring with a history! i think it’s totally romantic.  my FI picked out and designed my e-ring himself, but it’s pretty cheap compared to most of what i see on here, but that’s because 1. i don’t feel comfortabling wearing something expensive. and 2. we just want to get married with no debt, and don’t want to wait years to save up for a ring…then wait a few years to to save up for a wedding.  no thanks.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have a family diamond.  I don’t think its cheap.  But my FI is a cheap person, bad with christmas and birthday gifts.  My annual birthday gift is a half-gallon of captin “Its tradation, its what I got you for the first birthday we were together.”  We have been together for 5 years.  Its a lot of captin.  So I expected him to put some effort into the wedding band.  Would he feel better if he chose a new setting for it?

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ms.oregon.state:I have a family diamond (actually the whole ring) and I told FI that it was a million times more special to me than any diamond he could have picked out and paid thousands for in the store. That’s how I feel about it. And seriously, not only is it beautiful but what’s more important than family history?! I feel honored.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think it is truly sentimental and lovely to wear a ring with family history. I plan on handing down my ring to grandchildren and hope someone will use it.

Your guy can use the thousands he would have spent on a new ring on an amazing honeymoon!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Well, when you take the De Beers marketing element out of it (all the “two months of salary” stuff, etc.), the only logical reason I can see for an engagement ring to be expensive is to make sure it’s something of good quality that will last. So it’s already proven it will last, and there’s a very sweet story behind it. Maybe looking at it that way might help him not feel like he’s being cheap?

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