How to convince IL's to lock main house door??

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

@EmeraldTiger:  That’s tough when you’re living in their house.  Are there any safety events/police resources, etc. you can show them so they know locally it is recommended that doors are locked?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@EmeraldTiger:  What about making it really easy for everyone to lock up the doors with a keycode lock? It’s one less thing to worrying about, because you don’t need a physical key. When leaving, all you do is press a button and turn the lock. To enter, you type in a code and open the lock. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@EmeraldTiger:  How frustrating! I have been having to slowly train my husband to lock up, including the deadbolt (I had to show him how easy it is to break into the house with just the knob locked). I don’t know what I would do in your situation other than put a lock on the door to your basement suite so at least you can feel somewhat safe and secure.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Is it horrible that my first response in me head was to make it look like someone broke I while they were gone so they could get the point? Granted, nothing stolen just messed up a bit… and the door left wide open for when they get home…Nothing to extreme… And when they go to call the cops tell I’m it’s not necessary… And explain that it’s really that simple…

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t lock my doors. If someone were living me and didn’t like it, I’d tell them to move. I think it’s their house and I’m not sure you have a say in it. 

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@EmeraldTiger:  What’s your husband’s opinion? If he wants the doors locked, get him to do the talking, since they’re his family. If he doesn’t want the doors locked, there’s not much you can do.

Is the house and contents insured? It might be a condition of the insurance policy.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

While it’s probably true that OP technically cannot do anything about it, it’s not her house, I as a house owner would likely honor the fears of someone who was living with me because I do know that I “should” lock up even if I don’t.

If you, OP, are coming home to a dark house that has been unlocked for the day, that would scare me. Even worse sleeping in a house that is not locked. Have your boyfriend tell them that this is not safe for you, he should be taking action to protect you.

While I never worry too much about someone breaking in when I’m not there (it’s happened and let them take the crap)  I don’t want them breaking in with me there, and I sure as h*ll don’t want them lying in wait for me when I get home.

I live in an urban environment and would not dream of keeping anything unlocked.

Of course I grew up in a small town where no one locked anything, but now parents and relatives lock up there. It’s just common sense.

Have them listen to the episdoe from The Moth about the guy in suburbia who was blase about crime in his neighborhood until two guys jumped him (and his baby) in his garage, took  him in the house, robbed him and was getting ready to shoot him then a neighbor intervened.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Maybe I’m biased because we don’t lock our own doors – but if you live with them, you really can’t demand that they do anything in particular with their own home. And I think your scenario about someone smashing down your door is pretty paranoid TBH.

I don’t know where you live, but unless it a big city or a crime-ridden area, this really isnt a big deal. I think this is a matter to needing to adjust your expectations to your reality. Just lock your doors, it’ll be ok!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - Serafino Wines

Having visited a small town in Canada, I was very shocked that most people left their doors unlocked 24/7 or even left their doors wide open a lot of the time, even when they weren’t there. It’s not that I live in a high crime area or anything like that, but here you just do it. I even lock our screen/security door when I am home sometimes because of previous experiences. I recently came across somebody who never locks their doors and lives in a relatively rough neighbourhood. I just couldn’t wrap my head around it because here you don’t just not lock your doors! Haha it’s such a foreign concept to me. I worry all day if I can’t remember if I locked up or not. I would be frustrated too but I don’t see what you can do outside of what you’ve already asked of them. I guess I would just not let up and keep drilling it into them.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@EmeraldTiger:  I can’t imagine not locking my doors! I think your are right to be concerned about this. There is a such thing as a crime of opportunity, and it can happen anywhere. Moving from a country with a high crime rate, to one with a relatively very low one, seems to have given your in laws a false sense of security. Locking your doors is such an easy precaution to take and it would be in their best interests to do so. You and your husband should have a serious discussion with his parents and respectfully express your concerns. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

That’s crazy to me. Why make it so easy for an intruder to come into your home. Even the safest of neigborhoods can be robbed. 

I don’t understand what is so hard for them about locking their damn door. I mean, really. I’d move if I was you. I would do whatever needed to get out of there ASAP. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Can you get a new knob that you can set to automatically lock when you close it? My condo unit has one like that. Unfortunately, I have gotten locked out once (without my phone!), but once in 3 years isn’t too bad 🙂

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

My family NEVER locks their doors, and leaves the keys in their cars.

One day, my family woke up and ONE OF THE CARS HAD BEEN STOLEN FROM THE DRIVEWAY. Not a beater! A one year old, 25k+ SUV. So my brother nearly missed his baptism! It was great.

Did they learn?

Nope!

Some people just don’t like to lock up!

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