- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I have a friend/work colleague who is wedding dress shopping and really wants a blush, pink, peach, cognac or champagne coloured gown. Problem is, her mother, who was going to be paying for the dress, wants her to wear a white or ivory dress.
This is my friend’s first choice – she tried it on over the weekend and would have bought it right there, but her mum vetoed it – mainly because of the colour but also because it’s a bit non-traditional with the design.
We both thought that when her mum saw her in the dream dress she would be won over – I mean I’ve seen the photos of her in the dress, and she looks fantastic – but it didn’t happen. Problem is, her mum has never been to any weddings where the bride didn’t wear white/ivory. She is from Ireland so maybe that is what they do there?
My colleague has asked me for advice about what to do, since I didn’t wear a white dress to my wedding. But I can’t help her because my mum and fiance were both happy for me to wear a colour – in fact they encouraged it. So I need some advice from other Bees who actually had to convince someone to let them wear white.
So right now we’re thinking she’s got five options:
1. Keep trying on coloured dresses, get really excited in each one and hope her mum gives in eventually. This can only go on for so long as the wedding is in August next year and she needs to buy something within the next 2-3 months.
2. Re-do the budget, pay for the dream dress herself, hope her mum will give her the money for something else to do with the wedding (she and her FI were going to be paying for everything except the dress). This would really stretch them financially and she’s not really keen.
3. Get a dress that has a white top and a coloured skirt, like the ones below. This is a possibillty, since her mum seems sort of OK with the first dress (Allure), but she hasn’t said yes to it yet either.
4. Go for a very subtly coloured dress. Her mum is OK with the below one by David Tutera which is a more subtle champagne colour. She is likes it – but it’s not her dream dress either. Also she hasn’t tried it on yet.
5. Get a white dress for the ceremony and a coloured dress for the reception. This would be a great idea except she’d still have to pay for the coloured dress herself (see option 1) unless she can get lucky with another sample or second-hand dress.
What should she do? What would you do? Have you been there and can you offer any advice?