Post # 1
Looking for some advice here….Today my sister called to tell me that my father was found slumped over in his car. The medics were able to revive him, but he is not breathing on his own. He is stable, but in critical condition. At this point, we do not know the cause of this. He has high blood pressure and had surgery for glacoma recently, but i’m not aware of any other medical problems.
I live out-of-state. My parents just go divorced in April, but my mom is at the hospital b/c no other next of kin live in the area.
My father and I have never gotten along. For the past 10 yrs, we have only communicated briefly when needed. It just seems to work better if we keep our distance. However, he is still my dad and I’m so upset.
All this said, I’m nearly 5 weeks pregnant and need to calm down. This afternoon, DH and I tried to go to the movies (to take my mind off things). Half way through, I went to the bathroom and found light brown spotting. I freaked and we had to leave. I did call the doctor’s office and they said as long as it isn’t red I’m good.
However, I’m a little shredded at this point. Anyone have any tips for calming down?
Post # 3
@ladeeeda: prenatal yoga. I find I get so focused on my movement that I forget everything. I’m so sorry you’re going through such a crazy time. Take it easy- lots of rest. Your body is being taxed to the extreme, follow its cues.
Post # 4
One really great way to relax yourself is to put your hands on your stomach and talk to the baby. Even though the baby right now is more like a little clump of cells and your belly doesn’t really exist — still, do it. Tell the baby that you’re sorry you’re feeling so stressed and that you’re sorry your emotions are affecting him and that you’ll try to do better for him. The baby can’t hear or understand you, but the simple act of talking in this way can REALLY do wonders. I do it every time I start to get worked up, no matter what causes it — I apologize to the baby because it’s not her fault I feel this way, and soon enough I feel calm again. Good luck and I hope you feel better soon!!!
Post # 5
Heres what works for me….
*play mindless video games on the computer
*take a shower and think of the try to visualize the stress washing away. I don’t know what it is, but there is something very relaxing about watching the water do down the drain
*drink a nice cup of cocoa
*call a girlfriend and have a chats…about somethelse other than you.
*www.dogshaming.com……nough said. If you’re feeling adventurous, try http://www.shitmykidsruined.com.
Post # 6
@ladeeeda: Breathe. Breathe. ….
Have a bath or nice shower, not too hot, but nice and warm. Have a glass of warm milk with cinnamon. Try to have a nap. If you are too wired to nap, watch a movie on the couch. Relax and lie down. Write down your feelings in a journal or even just an email to yourself. Go outside and get some fresh air. Watch something funny. Hug your husband. Have him hug you back. Hugs are very calming.
Post # 7
These are fantastic suggestions.
Post # 8
I excersize, talk to the baby, and occasionally both at the same time.
I love walking/jogging on the treadmill and talking to the baby about what I’m watching on TV! S/he can’t hear me yet (12+1), but it’s REALLY fun!
Post # 9
@BrandNewBride: @Sunshine09: @KSBlueyz: @iarebridezilla: @mamadingdong:
Thank you ladies for all of the advice. I think I have used something from each of you! I’m trying to take things one day at a time and just hope this baby sticks!