How to cut it off with an ex who is obsess about me

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Just tell him flat out and then stop responding. Put on your big girl panties and STOP the back and forth if you are really serious. Block his email, send them to junk or change your email address and block his phone number or get a new number yourself.

 

Post # 3
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245 posts
Helper bee

Block his email address, phone number, facebook etc. It’s pretty easy, or threaten to tell his poor wife, I’m sure that’ll scare him off as he sounds like he’s using you, if he wanted to leave his wife – he would have by now, don’t let him use you as a back up plan/second best, and also think how you’d feel if your FI was in contact with an ex like you are.

Post # 4
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436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

This shouldn’t even be an issue. Ignore/block and move on. It is that simple. 

Post # 5
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4640 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

gpiglet:  Clearly you’re not serious about cutting him out of your life because you haven’t. Its not difficult and should not even be an issue, ignore/ block and carry on.

 

Post # 6
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1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Oh man, I have more experience in this department than I would like. It’s true what others have said- the ONLY way is to absolutely cut him off completely. He’s shown you he won’t do it so do it for him. Most digital anything (smartphones, social media, email accounts) will allow you to block or at least filter away contact from him so you don’t have to see it. At this point he is just looking for a response from you….even a negative one. You can’t give it to him. It will take time (I’ve gotten random calls from obsessed guys even as long as 5 years after the fact!) But you simply cannot engage of you truly want him to move on.

If it continues to the point of frequent non digital contact that you cannot block, such as calling your place of work or physically approaching you, then it’s time to contact the local police to get a report on record and potentially to pursue a restraining order. If he ever mentions anything violent or threatening in nature (even something like mentioning a shooting if it sounds like the intent was to make you feel uneasy) keep a record of it.

Post # 7
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6030 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Block his number on your phone, delete him off of facebook if he is on there, and most email systems allow you to create rules that automatically send mail from a specific person to the Delete folder, so do that too.

Post # 9
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8425 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t like to cut off people if it’s not neccessary.

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gpiglet:  It’s necessary, you need to cut off communication.

Post # 11
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2364 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

gpiglet:  On the contrary, if you block a person, it’s as if you don’t exist, even through mutual friends.  He won’t see you and you won’t see him.  

Post # 12
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442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

gpiglet:  So far it work out except him… and he start to creep me out by sending me txt that he saw me in the morning (I start at 7am, so by him seeing me drive by… he has to get up really early to see me) 

Sooo, it’s not working out. Also, him driving by your house at 7am is not romantic, or normal, it’s straight up stalker behavior.<br /><br /><br />

Post # 13
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1987 posts
Buzzing bee

“Bees, How do I let him know that I’m serious on cutting him off in my life???”

<br />Why do you have to let him know you’re serious? Just do it. He’ll figure out you’re serious when you stop responding to him. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  MrsYokiman. Reason: WB, Staaahp with the weird html tags
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