Post # 1
I wish I would have joined this site sooner and read posts before I responded to my sister but it just validates what I was thinking.
This morning my sister sent me a text saying sorry but I have to ask is her in law invited to the wedding? I responded telling her that that was rude of her asking and that my FI and I guest list hasn’t been finalized yet.
I thought this would be fine to say… wrong…
My sister responded saying that she wishes she had her old sister back, because I flip out on her all the time (The flip outs are just me standing up for my FI and I wedding)…. Every time she says anything about the wedding she puts her two cents in and gets upset if I politely tell her no and then ask rude questions. Lately all she does is bring up drama about how my friend (who is a bridesmaid) planned the whole bridal shower and bachelorette party (my sister is the MOH sadly) My friend had ideas that were never set in stone. Then She has been telling my father that my FI is controlling me because I speak to my FI before I ever commit to anything (hello?! My FI and I communicate because that is important we want to make sure we do not have anything planned prior to making other plans!) How can I deal with sister being overly dramatic about everything with my wedding and put her into her place.
My sister has added so much stress to myself, my FI and my family… I have lately been having anxiety and stress attacks because of her..
Post # 2
I should have also added that ever since she married her husband of whom my whole family cannot stand because he is a one upper and acts like he is made of money when he works a job that only makes $25,000 a year and then has my Dad pay their rent and bills. Every holiday they force us to invite his mom because she does not have family and its rude of us to not include her even though we do not invite any one else.
Post # 3
Ashleymarie13: A some point, you have to assume responsibility for your own stress level.
Initially, things your sister says may cause you stress. But eventually, it is you who chooses how to respond and what effect her words will have on you.
“Sorry sis, I appreciate your ideas, but the decision has been made.”
” I am sorry that you and BM were unable to work together planning the shower. As the guest of honor, I had no part in that. If it still bothers you, speak to ___.”
“I am going to get FI’s opinion as it is his wedding also. I will get back to you when we have made our decision.”
I suggest you focus on your wedding issues right now. Info about her husband’s behavior or his Mom is really not relevant.
Post # 4
Ashleymarie13: In this example, I think you were both rude. Her for asking if her in -law is invited and you for the way you responded. You could have simply replied, ” I’m sorry, but no, we wont be able to extend her an invitation.” If your sister is rude, try not to respond in kind.