(Closed) How to deal with a really passive-aggressive girl who hates me for no reason???

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

It doesn’t sound like she is being passive aggressive…it sounds like she is being straight up aggressive, just behind your back.  Does she talk to you at all?  I would say something to her, in front of everyone.  “Crystal, I’ve heard that you apparently have a huge problem with me.  Can we discuss this so we can clear the air?”  What’s the worst that could happen?

Post # 4
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5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would continue to ignore her and tell people you’d really rather not be told about the latest crazy things she’s said. Who cares about this awful person, do not waste another thought on her.

Post # 5
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532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Ummm you’re getting worked up over nothing, you’re moving in 6 weeks… I dont really know why this is bothering you so much.  I would just ignore her if I were you, she’s getting a rise out of you which is most likely what she wants.  Stop worrying about her, its not worth the effort, shes just some random person who I’m sure won’t be in your life for an extended period of time.  You are giving yourself gray hair for no reason!

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@iarebridezilla:  Oh I can relate. There’s a chick like this at my work. We used to be friends outside of work and then she started acting weirdly passive aggressive. I guess you just need to continue taking the high road.

I’m a bit confused though.. you said you can’t quit the running group, but you’re moving?

Hopefully out of sight out of mind.

If you do need to be around her, I suggest confronting her, and bring a friend with you. This needs to stop. The scary thing is she COULD be mentally unbalanced, but maybe then she will find a different target.

Post # 9
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701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@LGenz:  +1

Post # 11
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2363 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

I private messaged you… because I have been there. And my response got wayyy too long. I hope I could help in any way!

Post # 13
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It doesn’t actually sound like you or your friends left high school. Just by how angry you’re getting and the fact that your friends gossip about this girl the same way she does about you. grow up.

Post # 15
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2282 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Take lots of deep breaths.

Ask your friends to stop relating to you what this girl says – you gain nothing from specifics, you already know she hates you, and the details just keep the flame burning.

Don’t ever, ever communicate with her in any way – in person, over email, private messaging of any kind – without including a third party. If she emails you, forward it to someone. If you have to email her, cc someone. If you have to talk to her in person, make sure there is another person present. That way, she can never say that you said something you didn’t.

If you’re moving, this will take care of itself. Have nothing to do with her, no communication at all, once you’ve moved. She’ll relocate her anger. Hopefully, as you said, not to someone else, but if she does, you can counsel them on how to handle it.

I have so been there. Sorry you’re having to deal with this. It just poisons everything.

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