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My bridal party was meant to be simple: a matron of honor, a maid of honor and a bridesmaid. All three have a special meaning in my life and our couple as well and I wanted each of them to have a special title and share those moments with me.

Well back in February I went dress shopping with my aunt in law. Her grandaughter was with her and she is 12 (will be 13 by the time of the wedding). Since she was and I knew she wasn't as interested in the bridal stuff i told her she should ask to try some of the bridesmaid dresses there.

Well she did, and my aunt in law ended up spending more time with her than with me at times. I kept it cool because I needed her help (at the time I was condisering the option of getting my dress made and she used to be a seamstress).

Well at some point she asked me who my bridesmaid were. I told her and then she said: "Oh but it would be so great to have D (her grandaughter) be one too." Well D was right there, I felt trapped and all I could say was "Well D, would you like to be one?"

I wish I had had the reflex to just say NO. 

I don't mind her being in the bridal party, but then again, I want my 3 bridesmaid to be special. I know they'll be there to help me. I can't see D bringing anyhelp. I haven't talked with either the aunt or the grandmother. Yeah I'm playing the ostrich with her head in the ground right now.

I do not know what to do in all honesty.

Given that I was stupid enough to ask her I feel like I should find something for her to do but I just don't know what. Any title I could give her or idea of what she could do?

She is a bit old to be a flower girl and we are not having flowers thrown around anyway. 

Oh great. Thank you. I didn't even know that was an existing title.

I went on the knot and found some information in case someone else is interested in this. http://www.theknot.com/ch_article.html?Object=AI91221184725

 That looks like a good option. I could have her give out the programs so she gets something special to do.

Any one else has suggestions? 

Programs is what I was going to suggest too- I had my cousins do that

Thanks everyone. I think I'm definitely going to make her a Junior Bridesmaid, age was it's what she is anyway after all.

She does look older and she is well tall and not on the thin side so she will likely have to wear some adult size gowns.

I'll probably make her give the programs.

As far as the pictures I don't really mind, I'll probably  have some with just my 3 bridemaids and then we'll see. I can't imagine her involved in the more adult parts of the even if they do happen anyway, so I will stay strong, I promise.

And SoCalBeachGirl, yes  you pinpointed it: guildtrip. And I do hate how much people think their opinion matters in your even when you didn't ask for it. I'm getting better at telling people it's our wedding so thank you I'll think about it (maybe.