How to deal with divorced parents as an adult?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
Member
567 posts
Busy bee

Aly7489:  I went through this with my parents. Mom has a drinking problem and dad has a cheating problem. My mom has made my life hell since they separated. out partying like a teen again, dating the trashiest of white trash, and constantly trying to bitch to me about my father and get me to take sides. Honestly I have always been closer to my father and while I do not agree with cheating he has been nothing but an amazing father to me. He tries his very best to keep all of us “kids” (all adults) out of the drama. I had to draw a line with my mother and tell her I’m done with the bull shit. I told her do not call me if you’ve been drinking, do not text me if you’ve been drinking, do not show up to my house uninvited, do not call me if you have gotten yourself in trouble while drinking, the whole nine yards. I have limited my contact with her to maybe one visit a month but as soon as she’s visibly intoxicated I leave. I see my father on a much more frequent basis and I can tell that pisses her off. but if she’d rather spend her time drunk than she can choose to do so. unfortunately your parents are adults and have the right to choose their behavior. you’re also an adult so you have the right to put up with that behavior or detatch yourself from the situation. If I were you, I wouldn’t cut them out of your life but back off from them for a while. limit the time you spend with them and set boundaries regarding what is okay to discuss and what is not.  

Post # 4
Member
567 posts
Busy bee

Aly7489:  honestly there’s not much left for you to do =(  just try to enjoy your “new” family unit with your significant other, that’s all I do at this point!

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