- 3 years ago
- Wedding: January 2012
I would really like some help with this bees…
I will be annoucing to my whole family in around 10 days that I’m pregnant. While I’m extremely excited, I know one person who is going to try really hard to kill my buzz.
I have a cousin “S” who I love, and who loves me. But our personalities don’t always mix, and she tries on purpose to get under my skin.
S is a very negative person- she almost thrives on negativity. I’m not trying to judge her, and act like I’m perfect- hey, we all have our quirks.
What frustrates me, is when she tries on purpose to make me feel negative as well, or to convince me that things in my life suck. She does this often.
Here are some examples: (And she doesn’t even know I’m pregnant yet!)
“Your vagina is never the same after birth…it’s definitely going to be looser with less sexual pleasure.”
“You better have all decorating/work done on your home before having kids- it’ll be a nightmare to get all of it done after.”
“After you have kids, all the fun ends…enjoy your freedom while you can.”
Now look- I’m not saying that mothers/friends have to act like everything is rosy. I KNOW motherhood is one of the most difficult roles in the world…it’s exhausting! But I also believe it is rewarding and joyful. And I’d rather focus on the positive.
And more importantly, in many areas of my life, she is deliberately trying to make me feel badly. That’s what gets to me.
I want some tips on how to respond. Should I say, “I see things in a little more positive light than that.” Or is that rude?
Maybe: “I’m actually looking forward to labor, and everything that comes with raising children.”
Any tips guys?