- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
Ok..so lets make a long story short. FFIL is a horrible man. Worse than your classic asshole. He has done very horrible things to his family, and no one likes him, or respects him.
He has 2 sons, my FI and his brother. His brothers wife is my MOH, were all really close. FMIL passed away in November, and its been pretty hard on all of us. But FFIL is just being a god damn idiot.
Me, FI, and our 2 children live a 5 hour drive away from them. For Christmas we decided to go to FI hometown so FFIL wouldnt be alone for xmas. We really didnt want to go, but I did believe no matter how cruel a person, he didnt deserve to spend the holiday alone a month after losing his wife.
The holidays were spent with us staying at both their homes. Today, we were leaving to go back to our home. FFIL is a nut job, and frequently talks about getting a girlfriend, blah blah blah. We were leaving his house, and he told us we were not welcome back and that the weekend of our stag n doe and wedding we had to stay somewhere else (Which we planned anyway) but seriously WTF we didnt do anything wrong, he said his new girlfriend is coming to stay and he doesnt want our kids around and were not welcome there anymore. (for the record, we dont think hes actually met this gf and they just talk on the phone because lets be honest no woman would want to be with this man….especially a month after his wife of 30 years died!!
Anyway… he really hurt FI. FI is completely shocked (but Im not) that he would say that to him. We bent over backwards to try to make this man feel less lonely during the holidays and we get repayed with his shit! Not to mention the fact he openly talks about wanting a new gf.
I dont want him causing drama at our stag n doe…so I have decided to tell him hes not welcome to attend that.
But for the wedding…FSIL says she doesnt think he will cause problems, but honestly just looking at him makes me go into the worst mood ever! Would it be wrong to just invite him to the wedding like everyone else, and not be included in getting ready with the men, and family photos etc….FI doesnt mind…. I personally think we should cut all ties with him but thats a whole other story.
What would be the best way to do this, This man will make a fuss…cause problems etc. I was thinking of maybe sending him a msg on FB just saying your more than welcome to attend the wedding at 6:30…and just not mention the before stuff. Ughhh