Post # 1
I have NO idea what to do, and I’m hoping someone can offer some advice.
I don’t know if this is normal behaviour or not. My FMIL & FFIL wiped their hands of the rehearsal dinner, isn’t attending my shower AND every time my fiance and I try to discuss anything to do with the wedding with them, they turn it into a conversation about his brothers wedding that is 4 months after ours.
My FSIL (who is one of my MOH’s) has a similar reaction when we talk “wedding”…it becomes about my FBIL’s wedding, and she’s not attending the rehearsal because it’s “inconvenient” for her.
I’ve thought about asking if there’s something wrong, or if we’ve (more specifically I’ve) done anything to upset them. I just get the feeling that they are not excited or wanting this wedding to happen at all. Should I just sit back and hope it clears up as we get closer (we’re only about 5 weeks till the wedding now), or do I say something to find out what the deal is?
Any advice is appreciated 🙂 Thanks.
Post # 3
I guess in your situation I would call and ask. Give specific examples of how you feel they are ignoring your wedding. Be prepared for them to think you are being a drama queen. At your shower, surround yourself with those wholove you and have fun. If they want to play favorites, let them. Do NOT give in to them and at the wedding honor those who have helped the most.
Post # 4
Your fiance needs to step in and determine what is going on, for this is his family. The two of you need to approach it calmly and be prepared for something that might upset you further. Do not blame him for their behavior, whatever you do.
I am sorry you are going through this; my in-law issues started two days after my wedding, and they are quite stressful. We, too, are learning how to handle the lack of support.
Post # 5
I had issues with my exes parents and my Fi never stood up for me or tried to help. We called off the wedding and I have not looked back, but some of it was that I could not see myself living like that. it is rough – on a side note I am now with someone who is amazing, but have yet to meet his “judgemental” or so he says parents, so i am super scared. However enough about me! Like stacycats said, it is his family and he needs to step up too! And I also agree with what she said about not blaming him. It isn’t his fault but maybe you two can come up with a plan together and address it together, after all it is your wedding day and his! Have you talked to your FI about it? I hope everything works out, and I am sure no matter what you will have an amazinng wedding!