how to deal with "my way or the highway" attitude..

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

From your post, it sounds like he tried to do a nice thing by making dinner and then you complained because it wasn’t very good. I know my feelings would be pretty hurt if I tried that and DH made me feel bad about it.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

 

sfigu16:  I don’t really understand how him not following your plan of meals is him having an attitude of “my way or the highway”. I think maybe he just wanted to cook something he wanted. Are there other examples of this attitude you describe? I’m not quite seeing it from the example you gave.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Did he use the ingrediants that were purchased?  Did you have a specific recipe for the day?  This could just be a bad example, but it sounds like he was just trying to be nice and make you dinner too.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

stardustintheeyes:  I agree. All I am getting from the OP is that it was her way or the highway!

Post # 6
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5966 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

 

j_jaye:  I thought the same thing. I would be annoyed if my partner was trying to dictate to me what I should be eating and then got upset when I decided to try and be nice and cook us dinner. That just wouldn’t sit well with me and would feel way too controlling and like I was being micromanaged or something? I don’t know how else to describe it.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am in agreeance with other pp’s…I think him trying to cook a meal, a healthy meal, was his way of supporting your idea, not his way of controlling the situation.  I am the sole cook in our household 98% of the time.  In the 2% where DH throws something together, with perhaps ingredients I bought for another recipe, I THANK HIM – not scold him!!  Even if the meat was too tough, or the meal was not great.  

Stop pointing out what he is doing wrong, and try to start pointing out things you appreciate.  It will only enhance the ‘adult’ relationship you are striving to have with him, I promise.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by  OUgal0004.
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

Sounds like you meant, ” It’s MY way or the highway and he doesn’t know how to deal with it!”

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

stardustintheeyes:  It was all through the post- I had a plan- what to do and when to do it, I want this to be our thing, I told him. Not much we going on for a joint effort.

I have suffered through some terrible dinners because my husband was nice enough to make the effort to cook dinner. Everytime I thanked him for making the effort. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

 

j_jaye:  “it hurts that my opinions are never accepted” means “It pisses me off that he didn’t follow my plan”. yikes.

 

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Did he eat the chicken he over cooked?  Did he see the error in his ways?

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

All this over some crappy chicken?

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