- 2 years ago
- Wedding: December 2014
Hopefully that title doesn’t sound mean, but let me explain.
My brother is driving up from out of state to come visit my FI & I. My brother is 26 and has Asbergers.
My brother, let’s call him B, is very fixated (read: obsessed) with certain things: computers, any kind of technology, the Titanic, and the piano (he can listen to any kind of musical song and replay it, right then and there- it’s cray). If it isn’t about those subjects, he simply does not want to talk about it.
He also has no idea of social norms. Here is a typical conversation:
1) What iPhone is that? The 3? Wow that’s so old. I have the brand new one. It is so much better than that one. This one can do x, y, and z. Yours cant do any of that!
2) Talks about himself endlessly. Don’t try to get a word in. You won’t.
3) Endlessly discusses some kind of super advanced technology that you have no clue or interest in. Does not pick up that you are lost and bored. Keep discussing for another hour.
He also can be very rude and blatant. (Wow! You have dust on your window sill. You really should clean more often. Do you know how bad dust is for my allergies? I clean every day. My house is spotless).
Anyways bees, my wedding is less than a month a way and every little thing is setting me off. I’ve been a mix of wanting to cry because fiancé forgot to clean the litter box, and wanted to expode with rage, because how did he forget to clean the litter box?! I’m just very stressed and emotional.
I admit I haven’t done enough research on my brothers condition and how are better ways to communicate with him. I understand his quirks are just him, and it isn’t his fault he doesn’t know how to normally socialize. I love him so much and he has been super down lately- no one wants to spend time with him because no one understands him. He asks me all the time why he is so different; why no one likes him. It breaks my heart.
Any advice bees? I would love to get to the point where he doesn’t irritate me or I don’t look forward to talking with him. I know I need to adjust myself though- he is who he is.
I also hope no one twists my words or my intentions- I love my brother and simply want to learn how to communicate better with him.