How to deal with perverted neighbors?

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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643 posts
Busy bee

I don’t think there is anything you can do if you’re not willing to confront them. You’re free to wear what you want and they are free to look at what they want. I really wouldn’t worry about it. Just ignore them. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

lol there isn’t anything you can do. unless it’s TRULY bothering you, maybe your DH could tell them to tone it down. but i doubt that will help much

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with somethingblue.  They can look and say what they want and you can dress how you want, and it’r probably best to just ignore it.  Theyre probably just messing and trying to one up each others ‘manliness’ in harmless fun. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Personally I would have confronted them.

If you aren’t willing to do so, nothing will change.

Post # 6
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736 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

BakerBee16:  meh. I’d just take it as a rather (creepy) compliment. And be extremely happy that my FI is not like that! Guys like that make me respect my man that much more.

Lastly; age comes fast so you know what, I’d just enjoy the attention while I have it 🙂 Make the best of it in other words – you won’t change them!

Post # 7
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2580 posts
Sugar bee

That’s oilfield guys. I found a rare gem in that my guy works in the oil feild but doesn’t act like it. They don’t call them rig pigs for nothing

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I dont keep my eyes to myself when I see woman that catch my attention, and its not like im gay. So I can only imagine for a heterosexual man. So yeah, ignore it. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I wouldn’t go as far to call them perverted… I think you’re being too sensitive. 

This comes off as a #humblebrag to me.

Post # 10
Hostess
15072 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Umm, men are gonna look, that’s just life. They are also gonna to comment to their buddies, again, just life. They were making comments in their own apartment about you, it wasn’t said to you. I’m sorry, but I think your taking this way too seriously, thinking way too much into it, and this in no way is something to be upset about. If they start saying things to you or coming off stalkerish, then it’s time to concern yourself but for now, ignore it. 

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

cls9q: im sure these “pervs” said the same things your FH said/thought when he first saw you.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Ughhhhh. And this is why “Yes All Women” exists.

This is not ok behavior, and women shouldn’t have to just brush this type of thing off. Just because it doesn’t bother one woman doesn’t mean that the one who is bothered should be labeled as being overly sensitive or like she’s humble bragging. 

This is gross. Women, actually, all humans, should be able to feel comfortable in their skin, clothing, and etc when walking by a group of people who feel like it’s necessary to objectify another person. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

OMGMrsW2B:  Totes agree. Except they said this behind closed doors in their own home, not shouting it at her on the street. 

Youre telling me you and your girlfriends have never raved about how hot a guy looked? Come on. It’s human nature. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee

BakerBee16:  Here’s the thing… As a Floridian, I wear short shorts and tanks year-round. I dress them up with accessories, wear wedges, embellished flats, do my hair/makeup, whatever. I wear any outfit to be comfortable and feel confident and so that I don’t look like a total slob next to my DH. I’d be lying if I said I did all of that just “because it’s hot outside”. While that is one reason, I also want to look/feel polished and a little cute and sexy. Having said that, I would be naive to think that pervy men don’t have those sorts of thoughts from time to time. A lot of men can look at a woman in sweats and think like pigs. The difference is that they are prone to voicing those thoughts in the presence of other men, especially behind closed doors. As long as that’s the case, I wouldn’t ignore it and would not take it personal. If they deliberately say something in your presence, that’s when it oversteps some serious respect boundaries and you really need to stand up for yourself. 

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

OMGMrsW2B:  that is ridiculous. Your gonna ask all people in the world to never look at another human being and think “that person is hot”? Lol, seriously!? You can’t tell me that some ridiculous hashtag is gonna change human nature, that’s denying science and evolution. Sorry. Not. Gonna. Happen. 

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