How to deal with thoughts of dress regret…???

posted 3 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Did you have any thoughts of dress regret?
    YES. : (28 votes)
    31 %
    Sometimes : (31 votes)
    34 %
    NO. : (31 votes)
    34 %
  • Post # 3
    2004 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @Barbiestylez:  my dress is really different that your average bridal gown, so I definitely start wondering if others will question it or say I should have gone with a typical bridal look… and I am sure some will.  BUT those that know me and know me well, will look at that dress and say “that is sooo blushbliss“.  And that is what matters most to me.  I don’t think I could have found a dress that is more me.  If your dresses spoke to you then don’t question them.  Forget about how you look to others or what others will think of the dresses.  Think about how they make you feel so that when you look back at pictures you will remember that EXACT feeling you had when you wore it on your day.

    Post # 5
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    @Barbiestylez:  I was about to answer no, but reading what you meant by ”dress regret”, it does ring a bell. I don’t think I regret my dress choice, but I don’t know if I’ll look as good as I hope I will. I don’t know if the dress is the most flattering I could find. I was hoping for lace (but didn’t have the budget) ; although I ended up with a trumpet silhouette and a ruffle reception dress like I wanted, will I regret not going for the lace dress, which would have probably felt more ”me” ? And will the pictures have a timeless feel ? Will I regret going for a trendy silhouette instead of the traditional ballgown or A-line (even if those two silhouettes don’t feel like ”me”). 

    I think at some point, you have to trust your gut. When I look back at pictures of myself, I can’t say there is anything that I feel ashamed of. Even when I used to be heavily gothic. I loved my style back then, it was me, it was who I was and what I liked, so even though someone could look at this and say wow, that was so intense/weird/tacky, I didn’t think so, and I’m not ashamed of it. I think it will be the same with the dresses I’ve chosen. And it was a decision not to go over X budget as well. At this time of my life, I could afford X, and I found something I liked and felt good wearing, at that price, and it’s okay.

    I think you’ll remember your family and friends, your feelings (anxiety rising as you are about to walk down the aisle, emotion and tears through the ceremony and vows, euphoria after you’re presented as husband and wife, fun and laughter as you will drink, dine and dance with the people you love the most). You’ll remember the overall atmosphere of your wedding, and such details as your eyeshadow color choices, detailing in the dress or centerpieces will fade away. But it’s okay. You want your memories to be filled with powerful emotions and time spent with your loved ones – not with material stuff. 🙂

    Post # 6
    45 posts
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I had a lot of dress regret because I went shopping alone the first time and I found a dress I loved that was a trumpet lace champage gown. It was beautiful, flattering and in my price the salon it was the only dress I picked off the rack to try on. However when I went dress shopping with my family they kept telling me the dress wasn’t me at all and was too old looking for me. I thought they were crazy, how could it not be me? I picked it?? They kept picturing me in a big ballgown dress and honestly so did I at first so when we went shopping at another store I tried on a ballgown with a sparkle/beaded bodice and a ruffle organza skirt. Everyone said it was perfect for me and I had to buy the end I did buy the ball gown because I figured when else will I ever get a chance to wear a ballgown but my wedding day? But I still think about that other dress and wonder if I should have just listened to myself and bought it so I had major dress regret! However now that my wedding is so close, I am over it, my dress is dramatic, beautiful and fits me well and on the big day I will look great! After all no one else is the bride and none of those other dresses in stores or magazines will be there at the wedding for anyone to compare mine to!

    Post # 7
    397 posts
    Helper bee

    @Barbiestylez:  Your dresses are to die for. Seriously don’t think you could have done better.

    I am WAY too obsessive about my appearance being perfect on that day. However, I also think about how confident and great I feel when I buy a hot new dress and heels, fresh tan/nails, do my hair and makeup as perfectly as possible and walk into wherever I’m going. I know once I see the whole package, I’ll be happy. I also know I will tweak my hair and makeup until I feel 100% good with it. 

    Post # 8
    478 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @Barbiestylez:  I’ve seen your dresses and they are beautiful!

    I think dress regret is normal. I mean, it’s the biggest day of your life so you want everything to be perfect. Even though I love my dress, I know that I will always see other dresses that I absolutely love too. There are just so many gorgeous dresses out there. Unfortunately we cant have them all 🙁 When I feel myself getting like that I try to focus on other things regarding our wedding. And I try to remember that feeling I got when I first had it on — you fell in love with your dresses at some point right? Trust yourself, you made the right choices!

    Post # 9
    2419 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Both your dresses are gorgeous and you can carry them off splendidly. However, if you are a perfectionist it’d almost impossible not to doubt whether something even more perfect is just around the corner.

    I’d honestly say that in your case, even if you bought another two dresses, you could just as easily find yourself wondering. So put the dress regret to one side. You’ve made the right choices already.

    Post # 10
    270 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Steampunkbride:  +1, I totally agree!

    I think everyone has these thoughts once they already have their dress, and what makes it hard is watching/reading these boards and seeing everyone else getting their dresses and seeing how great they look on them! For example, I had those exact same thoughts when I saw you in your gorgeous dresses and felt as though mine was blah compared to your dramatic ballgown and lovely pink mermaid! 😉 It seemed to me that there will always be something better and or better looking than what I already have.

    However, I’ve learned to overcome that by looking at photos of my own dress again and saw how it looked on me and how classic and beautiful my dress is in its own right and that I know I won’t have any regret seeing myself in this dress 30+ years from now! 🙂 So if you’re having wavering thoughts, just take a gander back at those photos you posted of yourself in those dresses and that should help take care of those thoughts! lol

    And as for your worry about being a “wow” bride, girl you definitely will! Your dresses are already hits among the hive, who are really just strangers, so I’m sure your family and friends will definitely be wowed by you in your dresses! Good luck and don’t let these thoughts bring you down or get you to buy another dress! The dresses you have now are already perfect on you!

    Post # 11
    370 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @Barbiestylez:  I love reading your posts because you totally remind me of, well…ME! Being a perfectionist and wanting to have the “very best version” of everything you do for this wedding is both a blessing and a curse.   However, at some point you are going to have to cut yourself some slack because otherwise you are going to drive yourself crazy!   You are a gorgeous girl with gorgeous invitations, favors and dresses. You will be smashing…stop second-guessing yourself! 

    Post # 12
    2968 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @Barbiestylez:  Well I personally haven’t had any thoughts of dress regret but that’s mostly due to the fact that my dress will be getting custom made so I hope that if there was something that I’m not happy with, I’d be able to get it sorted out. Unfortunately for my mother, I haven’t regretted my choice not to wear white/ivory/etc lol. My reception dress is in my room though and thankfully I still love it.

    That being said, I’m going to echo what the other PPs have said and say that you need to cut yourself some slack. It is normal to have insecurities and to put yourself on yourself to be perfect or such but seriously, you have nothing to worry about. You’re freaking gorgeous, with a great figure and both your gowns are one of the handful that I’ve seen on here that has given me a serious case of dress jealousy. Both gowns are “wow” and dramatic and just remember that looking “bridal” is relative. It’s about how YOU want to look on YOUR WEDDING DAY. Your dress will bridal simply by the fact that it is what you will be wearing as the bride – and frankly, “bridal” doesn’t do justice to either gown. They’re fan-freaking-tastic Tongue Out

    Post # 14
    211 posts
    Helper bee

    @Barbiestylez:  you chose two beautiful dresses and not to mention you have a superb body. in no doubt that you’re going to be a stunning gorgeous bride!

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