- 6 years ago
OK, so this may or may not be something that anyone can help me out with but I’m struggling with the idea of what path to take next in the quest to have a baby. My Darling Husband and I have been married for over two years. I’ve been off BC for about 18 months and actively trying for at least over a year. I have normal periods and I’m 33, so that worries me and I guess I’m just a worrier in general, so I convinced Darling Husband that we needed to seek some medical counsel. We did an SA and HSG about two months ago now. My tubes are not blocked and everything was deemed normal but my DH’s numbers for his SA came out borderline (but honestly, that was like after 10 days of abstinance). My obgyn was all about just going to IUI, without meds b/c i wasn’t into that, and that’s it. Not much explanation or anything–just wanted to dive right in. I kinda had issues with that, and so did my Darling Husband. So we decided to just give it one more month naturally before we seek a specialist’s help.
I’m in the middle of my cycle right now, but I decided to make an appt with an established RE before AF is expected just to be prepared. Went yesterday. She was much better at explaining things and very much into, I’m here to help you, whatever you decide, but I guess even her start out method is a little more agressive than my obgyn…bloodtests (which I believe my obgyn should’ve done before hsg!) clomid, trigger shot, prescribing “special” pre-natal vitamins, etc. I’m ok and not ok with it. I mean I know the odds of IUI (basically taking you up to the natural 25% chance) and I know that drugs help that out–not taking drugs is really a crap shoot, so considering my insurance doesn’t really cover treatment, that means more attempts and more out of pocket expenses so might as well get the most bang for the buck!
The only thing is, I feel like once i go down the path of drugs I can’t go back. What kind of side effects will there be? Even though my husband’s numbers were borderline I still do believe we could get pregnant naturally, but I just don’t know if I can deal with letting more months go by without a baby. I think if I wasn’t the anxious type I could just let things be and it would be fine, but unfortunately I am not that type. I can’t help but think about wasting time and then before you know it, i’ll be 40 with and even harder chance of getting pregnant!
So, my question is, how have any of you come to terms with moving on to the next step? I know it’s a personal thing, but I just want to get other’s thoughts and experiences on how anyone in a similar situation has decided to move on or not.