Post # 1
Hi ladies! So this might be kind of a silly question, but one I’m curious about. How do you decide what to buy off a couple’s registry? We just got invited to a wedding but unfortunately we cannot go. I still want to send a gift, but the registries are so big (which isn’t necessarily a bad thing) that I don’t know what to choose. So I guess my question has a few parts: 1.) Brides: what was the best thing you received from your registry/what do you wish you had received? 2.) Brides-to-be: what do you want most off your registry? 3.) Everyone: what do you like to get couples? (kitchen stuff/bedroom stuff/etc) Also, we’re not even close to the registry part of our engagement, so this is still uncharted territory for me. Thanks everyone!
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
Mr. Bruschetta and I are foodies, so we really care most about the knives and cookware on our registry. We’re hoping that our family and friends will know about our love of cooking, and go for the items that will help us achieve our culinary dreams in the kitchen!
I always like to make sure there’s at least one thing each person can be excited about — something grill-related for the guy (for example) and baking stuff for the bride.
Post # 4
I like to get something that is not on the registry to compliment something on the registry. So I’ll pick out a cookbook I love (or more frequently, make a cookbook with some of my favorite recipies) and buy them something kitchen-y. Our wedding gift budget is small, so I always try to add somethiing a little special.
For the wedding I’m going to next weekend, I decided to hunt down a tea kettle that they registered for which is no longer available online. (Three phone calls to various crate & barrels around the country later, I hope no one else had the same idea!)
Post # 5
I too vote knives. they aren’t "fun" so often they aren’t bought and they are the best long lasting gift!
Post # 6
Personally, I am really hoping people buy us some of our bedding. None of it has been boughten yet, and I put it on there for a reason dam**t! Lol, but really if they have a nice new comforter/duvet on there, I would probably choose that.
Post # 7
We’re hoping for new pots and pans. The set we picked is expensive (not the most expensive though) and I think that’s the one thing we could use the most. The pans we have now are crap and all the non-stick stuff is coming off. My FI is the cook but he always complains that he "sucks" so I think having the better pans will help a lot.
As far as what we give it’s usually something off of the registry. I have a friend getting married in June and I’m probably going to get her a few small things off of the registry. Things I think are important and will be used a lot.
I also vote knives. If they registered for a set perhaps you could find them individually. Our registry person (who helped us set ours up) recommended that we put the set of pots & pans on as well as each individual piece b/c someone may want to get the big set for us but it’s more likely (with their price) that someone could only afford/would only want to gift one piece. Good luck!!!
Post # 8
I loved anything we got from our Williams-Sonoma registry. I swear one of my favorite gifts that I thought was stupid to put on there was our mini prep food processor. It’s so helpful for chopping herbs, garlic, making dressing or mayo. So glad we got it!
Post # 9
I usually give towels or linens (expensive, and not a lot of fun to buy for yourself!). I like to track the sales and buy the items I can get the most "bang for my buck", if that makes sense? Ie, I will buy $125 worth of towels on sale for $75 type of thing 🙂
I think just from the varied response here already, you’re good to get anything off the registry. 🙂
Post # 10
the best things i rec’d off my registery were our bedding. But I also really loved the thoughtful, sentimental things I rec’d. My godmother gave us all of our bakeware..which was extremely generous. But she also hand wrote a ton of family recipes for us. I cannot imagine how long that took her. She put them all together for us in a personalized binder. A family friend from my husbands side gave us a cookie press. Not our favorite gift and we don’t get to use it that often. But everytime we use it, I think of making holiday cookies with my grandmother. And one of DH aunts gave me a cake stand from the Martha Stewart line at Macys..that reminds me of something my mom used to have.
Post # 11
I usually like to get them something from the registry that I know I enjoy using, like a big enamel coated cast iron Dutch oven, what foodie could live without it?
Personally, I’m hoping for pots and pans and knives to be bought. They aren’t fun, but I definitely need them.
Post # 12
I usually like to give something with permanence. Like china or silverware or a nice vase off the registry. I never like to give a couple something that will probably be thrown away in a few years (like a plastic cutting board or something like that). I usually also tend toward gifts I would get for myself. So if I don’t like a couple’s china pattern, I’ll usually pick something else 😉
If I were you, I would just set a budget for yourself beforehand, and then find something that is most appealing to you! If there is something on the registry that you would get for the couple even if it wasn’t on the registry, I think that is a good gift right there. If nothing really screams "buy me," I would get them something practical.
Post # 13
I normally figure out exactly what I’m willing to spend and then I buy whatever I think they would use the most.
And as far as "sets" go….I always pay attention to what has been bought already. I’m not going to buy someone two towels if that is all my budget allows, assuming the others will be bought. If someone else already bought them some, great, but I always feel bad if the couple ends up with only a few pieces – and then has to return them because the pattern/color/whatever is discontinued by the time the event rolls around.
Maybe that’s just me, but I’m paranoid like that. I’m all about kitchen stuff. Foodie or not, it will get used!
Post # 14
My standard wedding gift has a theme: safety. I get them a fire extinguisher, a cabon monoxide and smoke detector, and a first aid kit. These are things that people need but often forget about when registering. I put it all in a pretty basket with a big bow. Those who know me know that I am all about preparedness as a volunteer for the American Red Cross Disaster Action Team.
Post # 15
I think it depends on the couple. If you know what they like (like sushi) get them something off their registry that you know they will love, like the sushi dishes they registered for or something. Personally I love cooking and entertaining so our dishes and cookware are highly desired. When I give a gift, I usually what it to be cohesive, so either something that is a "big" enough gift to stand on it’s own (like a blender or something), or "small" enough gifts that I can get all of the ones they were registered for (like dishes, towels, placemats) or I like to finish off things they’ve only gotten x out of x desired. If I’m going to go with a few "small" items I’ll get cohesive things- glasses and the cocktail shaker or something. Hope that helps!
Post # 16
It does depend on the couple.
For me, I’m most excited to get a place setting of my dishes and silverware. First of all, it’s a much-needed upgrade to our Ikea dishes, and second, I’ve received 2 sets and would really like more of them.