Post # 1
Not wedding related at all, but hoping someone here might have an idea.
I have been told that I lack self belief/confidence which could potentially hold my company back. I run a small business I want to turn into a global brand and have been advised to hire someone to ‘front’ the company and do all sales and marketing, while I take a more back seat approach. I absolutely do not want to do this.
I am not totally shy and retiring, but don’t have a lot of belief in my abilities which does show. I am about to start my MBA next year which should help a little.
I’m in my mid-late twenties, I really should be beyond this! I would appreciate any suggestions people have for improving this, thanks.
Post # 2
I am about to start my MBA next year which should help a little.
I’d like to share something my orientation advisor told me when I was trying to figure out if I should finish my ph.d or quit and enter the job market. I self-doubt a lot, just like you. I was afraid quitting would make me a failure, and I tend to depreciate myself because of it. She told me : ”be careful not to believe that you absolutely need a diploma in order to be competent.” In other words, it’s good that you want to learn new knowledges and develop new skills with your MBA, I’m sure it will open doors in front of you, but don’t let all of your confidence in your abilities and self-worth rely solely on that piece of paper. Make a list of all your strenghts and competences as an entrepreneur (and also on a personal level), you’ll be surprised how much you have to offer. Keep this in mind whenever you self-doubt.
And work on stepping out of your comfort zone. I know it’s not easy and I’ve been working on this as well, but so far it has lead to many great opportunities. You already know what your goal is. You now need to work on how to get there. You will never regret trying ! As uncomfortable as it is for you, it’s a temporary state that has a potential of getting your company where you want it to be (and beyond), all the while allowing you to grow as a person, too.
Post # 3
This is something I struggle with as well. I’ve been told by my colleagues that my job is 50% skill and 50% confidence in those skills. When I second-guess myself constantly, I perform much worse than when I don’t. I like NauticalDisaster’s list idea of your strengths. One thing I find helpful is to think back on situations I handled well, especially ones relevant to your business. I need that reminder that I have done things well in the past to get where I am today, to make me feel that I have the capability to do well in the future. I replay them and try to capture that feeling of control. My work also gives out little cards that can be redeemed for small treats when we perform above and beyond. Rather than redeem them, I save all mine because they are a huge confidence booster, and I take them out to look at them. You can make your own by writing down good things you have done, and keep up with it by writing down your successes. When you’re doubting yourself, you can pull out your stack and realize that you do have the skills to make it!
Post # 4
Try to focus on all of your accomplishments and the positive aspects of who you are.
When I don’t feel confident at work, I remind myself of how well I did in school, the glowing references I have received and the compliments I get from loved ones.
Post # 5
If you are starting an MBA program and have been told what might be your weakness, an MBA program will give you the opportunity to work on it–if you really work on it. I’ve never been to Bschool, but I know that a lot of it will be training you with networking and relationship-building, communications, etc. Take full advantage of your time to develop those skills.
But another thing to observe, which school can give you the time to observe, is perhaps the person told you that because they are aware of what being the face of a company on a global scale really entails–and they may not be saying you’re unable to do it, but perhaps that you’re not going to find it interesting or satisfying to have that role. Sometimes people say things like “you lack the self-confidence” but what they might be tapping into is the fact that you’re just not into it, and the lack of interest is manifesting itself as lack of self-confidence. I’m not saying it’s definitely that or not that, but school may help you make sense of this further.