How to differentiate a male bridal party member from the groomsmen?

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MrsZynxy:  maybe a diff Boutonniere? Why do you have to figure this out for your firend? 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsZynxy:  What color are the dresses? Maybe a tie that is the same color as the dresses… Or again, a different bouttonniere…

I think it would look fine if he wore the same thing… I mean he will be standing on the bride’s side, right?

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@MrsZynxy:  What color is the dress the bridesmaids are wearing?  I second the tie idea and definitely order a slightly different bout.   Otherwise, when he stands on the bride’s side during the ceremony, everyone will figure out that he’s a male bridal attendant.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Latitude 41

I am having this issue right now, myself.  My best friend is male and on my side of the bridal party.  I want him to not look identical to the groomsmen but not stand out so much that my groom doesn’t stand out. 

Here is what I’m thinking I will do.  My groom will wear a different shad of gray for his suit.  My bridesman is going to wear the same shade as the groomsmen but he will wear a differnt color shirt (the groomsmen will wear white shirts and my bridesman will wear blush- same as my bridesmaids). 

Other suggestions I have gotten are to give the bridesman a differnt pocket square, or have him wear a bow tie or no jacket and just a vest.

Good luck! 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MrsZynxy:  im asking a male friend to stand on my side, I talk to the FI already his sister hes asking to stand on his, but to keep the flow we are asking if they are ok with being on eachothers sides , that they will be wearing the same thing as the other briedsmaids ang groomsmen. the ones we would want to stand out a bit would be the MOH/GBM so they will have a specail flower or a diif style dress. – when it comes to photos “all the girls over here” we didnt want the MOH and grooms-girl to stand out from the other 2 girls. same with the guys, we will have “my side” photos and “all girl photos” if they both are ok with standing with other gender sides…his sister will still be involved in showers and such, same as my male friend…i just want my people on my side thats about it 🙂 maybe thats how your friend feels about odd sides i donno…  

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

He stands on the bride’s side and not the groom’s.  I don’t think anything else is necessary.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

Hmm…  Since you said the groomsmen are matching the bridesmaids, that makes it tough.  We had my brother and the groomsmen all wear gray suits, and my MOH wear a gray dress, and she and my brother had pops of pink (he had a pink tie and pink socks and pink sunglasses) while the groomsmen all had green for those things.  Different tie is the easiest way I can think of to differentiate, but you don’t want it to look totally random either.  A different boutonniere would be good too.  

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Had my bridesman wear a suit rather than tux, and had a vest/tie in the same color as the bridesmaid dresses (the groomsmen wore a neutral vest). Also a flashier bout.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

My Man of Honor was dresses the same as the Groom and Best Man. I really didn’t see a point in trying to differentiate for the sake of differentiating. They are all one big bridal party anyway, right?

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I had a bridesman and 2 bridesmaids, and my husband had 3 groomsmen. Everyone wore black suits. Groomsmen wore black vests and black neckties. Groom wore black vest with black bowtie. Bridesman wore champagne vest and necktie since the bridesmaids wore champagne dresses. Nobody thought the bridesman was the groom. 🙂

 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We had the opposite situation, his best man was a girl. She wore the same dress as the bridesmaids but in black, the rest were blue. The guys were all wearing kilts though. I think the best solution would be to have him wear a different tie- its not too different from the guys, but it till shows the difference.

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